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  • R4D16 Christian life is a struggle

    I find myself still praying for the same things that I wrote down during round 1 of this dare. I suppose in a way that's good - it reminds me of Jesus in Luke 11 telling the story about the persistent friend in the middle of the night. But it has...
  • R4D15 Spouse-honoring yard work

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    I was sitting inside this afternoon reading through some sales ads, and DH asked me to come out to the front porch. When I got out there, he had been trimming dead limbs out of a dogwood tree. He wanted my opinion. It was very cold outside, and after...
  • R4D14 Love delights

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    Today's dare was tricky because we were running in opposite directions today. Going into the day, I wasn't sure how I was going to get it accomplished. However, this morning as we were drinking coffee, DH was especially talkative about work. So...
  • R4D13 Christmas plans

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    DH and I really don't fight. I drew up a list of rules to fight by during Round 1. Some of the things on my list I have tried to incorporate into my everyday discussions with him, like listening before I speak, speaking gently and speaking the truth...
  • R4D12 Letting him win...

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    I cannot think of anything that DH and I disagree on for which I can honor his preference. I have a feeling there are things that DH dislikes or disagrees with, but won't communicate those to me, so I don't have much to work with. I prayed that...
  • R4D11 Cherishing with Biscuits and Gravy!

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    Tonight I cooked one of my DH's favorite dinners - breakfast. We had a good southern breakfast - bacon, eggs, biscuits, and gravy! I forgot how much he liked that. He even said that it was good. (He doesn't throw out compliments too often). I...
  • R4D10 Oatmeal cookies

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    I thought all day long about what I could do out of the ordinary for DH. I kept coming up with nothing. I ended up running by the grocery store on my way home, and saw some oatmeal raisin cookies in the bakery - DH's favorite. I bought a couple and...
  • Postponing.....

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    Ok, I know that technically I shouldn't do this, but I had to push today's dare off until tomorrow. My son flew in from across the country today. I drove two hours to the airport to pick him up, and two hours back home. It's only the second...
  • R4D9 An Anxious Greeting

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    When I got home this afternoon from my trip to my sister's house, I tried my hardest to give DH a warm greeting. I am not sure that I did all that great. I actually dreaded coming home. There was a part of me that was looking forward to seeing him...
  • R4D8 Love is not jealous

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    It is no problem for me to destroy the list of negatives. I don't want to dwell on them. Although dwelling on them makes stomaching the thought of a divorce a little easier. But that's what the world would advise me to do. Think about the bad...
  • R4D7 Appreciation vs Advantage

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    I have spent a lot of time in the appreciation room since this ordeal began. I have reminded myself of those positive characteristics over and over. It makes me sad that DH is spending so much time in the depreciation room and sees so much negative about...
  • R4D6 Margin

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    Margin. I realized today that I need it in a big way. I have struggled over the past two days with feeling like I need to get away, but knowing that I cannot and will not pack up and move when my DH hasn't even filed for divorce yet. I was on the...
  • R4D5 I need Jesus

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    I am a mess. I spent time in God's word today, and some extra prayer time too. I knew that DH and I would probably pick up last night's conversation again this evening, and I asked God for an extra measure of strength, love, and compassion. I...
  • R4D4 Couldn't do it

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    I didn't get today's dare done. I can't call him during the day at work. I can text and he can text back when he has a chance. I had an opportunity to text him and ask if I could do anything for him today, but I chickened out. I am doing SO...
  • R4D3 Love is not selfish

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    Selfishness has been and is at the root of the problems in my marriage. God has opened my eyes to the selfishness in my own heart that has hurt my marriage. My attitude was often one that revolved around him meeting my needs rather than me meeting his...
  • R4D2 Love is kind

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    My DH was out of town hunting today, and didn't get home until about 9:30 this evening. As an unexpected gesture of kindness, I folded his work clothes. Typically, he just throws his work clothes into a laundry basket straight from the dryer and just...
  • R4D1 An exercise in patience

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    This morning, DH was sorting through some bills and pulled out a statement for his Home Depot credit card and made a comment that he needed to make a payment. I said, "Well, speaking of Home Depot...." and I proceeded to tell him about Home...
  • R3D40

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    It is hard to believe that today ends round 3. I have not been able to accomplish today's dare yet. Words just don't come. I can sit down and write lengthy letters to my DH, but when I think about writing a vow, the words just aren't there...
  • To buy or not to buy??

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    To buy or not to buy.....that is the question of the day. For many years I have been a big Black Friday shopper. I typically would have my list, and pretty much finish my Christmas shopping by the end of Black Friday. I am sitting here trying to figure...
  • R3D39 A letter of thanks

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    For today's dare, I combined 2 subject matters into one letter since we were celebrating Thanksgiving with DH's family this evening. In addition to my love, I expressed my thankfulness for our marriage and for him. He has mentioned several times...
  • R3D38 A Peaceful Day

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    It’s really hard to know what my DH‘s desires are. Right now, he’s all over the place. I think that he would like to retire in two years. As a matter of fact, I think this may be one reason that he wants a divorce. I’m nine years...
  • R3D37 Crying in public is never fun.....

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    Today's dare was prayer. I had a fitful night last night, and I called in and took a vacation day today. I spent a lot of time in prayer today, most of it in tears. I have cried harder today than any day since this nightmare began. To top it off,...
  • R3D36 Clinging to His Word

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    I asked DH what he meant last Tuesday when he asked what I thought. He was basically wanting to know what my plans were. I told him that I didn't have any plans. He hasn’t filed for divorce yet because he was waiting for my house to be ready...
  • R3D35 Counsel

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    "Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisors bring success." After reading today's dare, these words in Proverbs have been on my mind all day. I have been very fortunate to have wonderful Christian counsel during this ordeal. But each...
  • R3D34 Simply Thankful

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    Well, I had to stretch a little bit in order to complete today's dare. I had a hard time coming up with a recent example of how DH showed Christian character in a noticeable way. He did make me laugh today, and I told him that he was funny and that...
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