Collaborate without boundaries

This is definitely a challenge....

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I read this dare, and thought it would be an easier one for me. I am not a jealous person, typically, and am a firm believer if my husband's eyes turn to someone else and he pursues them...that is between him and God. I probably wouldn't even be aware of it until it was way too late. And I AM my spouse's biggest fan. 

For background, my husband is a very talented home renovator. He works with a contractor, so he can and does do a little bit of everything. When we moved into this house he began tearing out floors for the owner...some of the wood was rotten. The little project became a big one, and entire rooms had to be redone. Trim was removed, and doorways were put in and closed off. He finished the floors, but then they got busy doing something I have a big hole in my front room that was a doorway, and now it needs sheetrock. I managed to not say anything negative about this until last month...I told him I would like to move into a house he had recently renovated because it was finished...and mine wasn't. (It has been over a year.) 

So yesterday when I got home I was told that he had a job today...he didn't think he was going to be able to work until next year. He was excited, and per the dare I told him how glad I was he was successful in finding work. But inwardly I seethed because I have family coming in this weekend and there is a BIG hole in my front room. I am actually jealous of his time! In reality...that is very petty and disturbing....but it is true. I KNOW he works so hard so we can have the money to run our household, and even when he is off work he cleans, etc. He fixed the roof in the rain for crying out loud! Why am I jealous of his time? And it will only matter to me if there is a hole in the wall in the front room. 

My reminder:

Philippians 4:8  King James Version (KJV)

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

  • It's good to see where things that bother you really don't matter and should not get to you.  As you do the dares the way they are intended to be done, these things will become easier to overcome.  

    But in all you do and in what you think, be it all in kindness and patience.  

  • It sounds like you are very in tune with how you're feeling. And you seem to be aware of all the wonderful things your husband is doing. Continue focusing on the good things, the bad will seem less important.

  • Thanks, tim and omj. I appreciate your support!

  • Yes, focus on the good. Give him praise. Tell him that the work he does is wonderful and how you can't wait to see what he does with "the big hole." Get him excited to finish the project.

    He sacrificed to fix the roof and you sacrifice some time with him. Hopefully one day he will understand what is going on. You just need to continue to sacrifice and she unconditional love.

    "Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God."

    Hebrews 13:16

  • yes, Eddie,  you are right. I plan to love whatever he has done to it! Or not done...that is ok, too. God's word is SO TRUE. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. (Pro. 23:7) I think I will be loving, and so I shall be....

    Thank you for your encouragement!

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