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  • God Showing Up!

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    On Sunday 12/10/17 I was on my way to church with my two kids and a friend of mine. I honestly don’t know how the conversation came up, buy my daughter started talking about her mom’s boyfriend. How he works all night and sleeps during the...
  • In no man's land

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    I am in a very odd spot right now emotionally. I have shifted much of my focus from my wife to others. I poor myself into those that are in need of actual help, or are struggling with some type of trial. I find this living out of Christs call to love...
  • Seeing Jesus

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    So I have been struggling with the obsession with my wife and this guy. Not knowing how to let it go. It was tormenting my thoughts. Then the other day God put on my heart to post a testimony on Facebook about my transformation inside and out. Through...
  • The other spouse

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    Yesterday was an interesting day. I was connected with my wife’s boyfriend’s wife. We text throughout the day and into the night. Mostly about getting to know the other’s spouse since they are now around our each other’s children...
  • Serving with Love, but confused on response

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    so today I with the help of several of my friends in my bible studies moved a bunch of furniture for my wife. While doing this she had payed out a plan that included me doing things for her later on. After dropping off the moving truck and coming to the...
  • struggling not to be frustrated

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    So my wife has some stuff to move from her ex-husbands house from over 12 years ago. She asked me to help her on Tuesday and so we agreed Saturday morning would be the day that I would get people lined up and would help her. It is now Friday afternoon...
  • Setting the Record Straight

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    Hey Everyone, I hope it was a great Thanksgiving for all of you. Mine was a great thinks giving. Not only did God provide a way to show love to my estranged wife, but he also gave me the courage and opportunity to set the record straight with several...
  • All to please her or is it for HIM?

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    Over the last week or so, God has been showing me how much I have left to grow in my identity in him. I think a few post back I commented on how I was competing with these other men in my wife’s life. What type of vehicle they drove, what type of...
  • The enemy is not our Spouse!

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    I listened to a sermon online today, and it was talking about the trials that we go through in life. How God uses them to shape and mold us. It also said that before God is going to use us for anything big in his plan he is going to test us, to make sure...
  • healing a little

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    Just home from a warship service at church. I prayed a lot about he anger I noticed today was in my heart. The anger at my wife for the men she has been with, the anger at God for letting her, and mostly the anger I have at myself for breaking the marriage...
  • The question I can't answer

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    People lately have asked me how I was doing lately. The real kind of people that actually want an answer not just a greeting. The funny thing is I don’t really know how to answer them. Am I doing ok? Yes, many times I am doing much better than ok...
  • Lean not on my own understanding

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    So one nights sleep away from my wife introducing her new boyfriend to our daughter, and then tell me that she has finally found someone she wants to date (Even though I know of 3-4 others that she has tried with). Anyways I digress. I spent the night...
  • Heart broken and disappointed

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    So as far as I know my wife has kept our daughter out of her dating life. Tonight I find out she introduced our daughter to her latest boyfriend and his kids. She has just been seeing him for a few weeks so to be honest I am shocked that she took this...
  • Could it be his plan in action?

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    When I first started standing for my marriage, I believe that God had revealed to me that my miracle of reconciliation would be using my daughter as the conduit. I don’t know if this is it in its entirety but I can say that she brought a small one...
  • Blessings in disguise

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    So this morning I got all the way to work, and realized I had forgot my computer at home 30 minutes away. I turned around to get it, and as I pulled into town, my wife text me that they were going to be doing a chest x-ray and an EKG on my 6 year old...
  • What shall I do?

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    Not knowing what to do, so I am doing nothing… with my wife just recently entering into yet another relationship, I have struggled with what to do. I haven’t given up hope, but see that God has caused separation in each of her past so why...
  • God is protecting me

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    In the last week I have had two wise mature christian men say similar things at different times. That they believe that God is protecting me by not having brought my wife back to me yet. She is clearly not in a place that she would be healthy for me,...
  • David- crying out to God

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    The last week or so has been hard for me. Accepting the fact that my wife is so active in her pursuit to find my replacement and is so lustful has been hard to deal with and still keep my peace in the lord, and my love for the hurting child of his. I...
  • Humbly returning, heart is broken by my love for God is not

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    Hey everyone, it has been a while since I have been on here. I hope everyone is doing ok, I look forward to catching up on everyone’s post. It is sad how when things start going well that we don’t always do the things that kept us going in...
  • Day 40 RD 2

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    Today is day 40 of my second and final round for now. I thought since I haven’t been on here for some time I would share an update on my two relationships. The one with Christ and the one with my wife. I will start with my wife, so that I can end...
  • Fulfilling her needs

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    I know not everyone has come to this Dare yet, and for some it has gone very well. I have to say that the second time around it is much harder for me to do. The first time I had a great belief that she was going to respond to it in a positive note. Instead...
  • Day 26: Love is Responsible

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    It has been a while since I have been very active on here, so I wanted to check in and share the latest in my journey. Recently things have been so up and down with me and my wife. With that said the last few days and nights before doing this dare, things...
  • New and Old struggles brought New and great blessings:

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    I have been struggling and been blessed both over the last few days. My last post was asking for advice on asking others for prayer. I did do this, and instead of just reaching out to those that I know are supporting me, and are close to me. I included...
  • Question for the Group, Asking for Prayer?

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    On my way to work, I was listening to a sermon from Rick Warren out at Saddleback church. He was talking about prayer and recovery. While listening to this, a thought came into my head about reaching out to those around my wife and I that I know are strong...
  • Not falling apart but falling into place= Hope

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    So it is clear that I post much more and often when the heat is on, and trials are intense. Some of it is because I appreciate the insight and support that so many of you give, but the other part is it is part of my testimony that God is building. I have...
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