My husband says I wait till I have a crisis and then react.  Perhaps he's right.  So here I am reacting again.  Only this time, I think I've got the right idea.  There's no point trying to hold on until he changes.  That's asking for heartbreak (on both sides.)  It's self-centered, since that means I'm looking for my satisfaction, not loving him unconditionally, and not seeking God's will and purpose for my life and marriage. So here goes everything.  Today starts Day 1 for me.  I started yesterday afternoon, but I'm going to let it run to the end of the day today.  I've been toying with the idea of going for a day and a half, but I'm not sure.  Either way, I'm making it through today.  He doesn't know I'm doing this, not sure he would believe in my sincerity if I told him.  God help me make it through one day at a time.  I love my husband, and I want God's will to be fulfilled in our lives.