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Day 5

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So day 5 has proven to be even harder...... my wife still wants to get a divorce and I'm pretty sure I'm not competing with another guy..... I asked her today to tell me 3 things that about me or stuff I do that irritates her and she won't give me an answer...... she says that there's no reason to ask that and no reason for her to give me an answer, so I'm kind of at a stand still because idk what exactly to do since she won't give me an answer it kind if makes this day useless.... so do I move on to day 6 tomorrow or do I wait for her to give me an answer???

  • Dare completed.  Move one to the next tomorrow.  Her lack of answering has no bearing on the quality of you doing the dare.  If she chooses not to answer don't ask again.  Any more is getting in her space she wants.  The key to the dares is in you.  Not her.  Let the dates continue you on the journey between you and Christ.  You are being molded by each dare.  

    Do you mean you think you are competing with another guy?  Is so, don't snoop.  If God wants you to know you will.  Even if she is there's only two things you can do.... forgive and love unconditionally.

  • We worry because of our flesh and that's what evil wants you to do.  85 percent of what we fear is nothing.  10 percent we make it to be much worse than it is.  And 5 percent we love and forgive.

    No dare is a waste if you attempt to complete them as intended.

  • So she finally answered me and told me that 1.i lie to her about some stupid things. 2. I act like i dont care about stuff. 3. I  never wanted to do stuff with her. So is it to early to start working on fixing the 3 things she told me irritate her or is there a spot for that in the coming days???? I want to ask her to do stuff with me and go out of town with me for the weekend.

  • It wasn't useless. I got no answer, bUT I know he sees that I'm taking responsibility for my sins and mistakes. That's part of the battle. Integrity is never useless or wasted.

  • It wasn't useless. I got no answer, bUT I know he sees that I'm taking responsibility for my sins and mistakes. That's part of the battle. Integrity is never useless or wasted.

  • I would say right now she needs space.    We are the ones that want to spend time and weekends together, not them.  IF you do the dares the best you can, those three things will self correct, but keep those points in mind.  She will see your changes, don't point out your changes to her.  She may not mention you have changed, but she will see it.  She needs time to believe the changes are real and not a way to win her back.  

    Always pray avbout anything I say before following.  

  • As someone who has done this for a while and made mistakes too - this is about your journey with God, that he has called you to through this site.  Our spouses may not answer, may answer with things we don't want to hear but that is how we build endurance, and how Satan builds doubt in us.  I've been reminded again, His ways are higher than our - we can never imagine how he will use a situation, but He does...for our good and His glory...we may just not see it for a while.  We live in a world seeking immediate results...patience, unconditional love, endurance is God's way.  And as Tim said, His timing is never late...it is perfect.  He has all of us in the palm of His loving hand.

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