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Great evening to you all. I pray that you are in good spirits.

Since Tuesday I have been contemplating if I'm going to buy my husband a father's day gift. My flesh is saying not to because he hasn't honored me as the mother of his children for the past two mothers days. He cursed me out last year and told me that I'm not his mother so he doesn't have to honor me. All I got wassT a text. This year he said I don't have to honor you but he did make sure to take the kids to the store to let them pick out something for me. I took the children to the store tuesday to get something for him but I'm on the fence about giving him a gift from me. The spirit is willing; except my righteousness exceeds the righteousness of the scribes and pharisees..... I'll make my final decision before Sunday, I guess. 

  • The foundation to the dares is showing patience and kindness.  Does buying a gift show kindness?  Does not buying a gift show kindness?  

    If we are to  love  our enemies, what  should we do for our spouses?

    It is hurtful that he didn't do much or even cursed you out the last few years.  But, let that go to the foot of the cross and know that what he really showed in doing these things is his selfishness, not a refection of you.  And then rejoice in God that he did send a text and that he showed kindness and had the kids get something for you.

  • If you choose to get him something, it doesn't have to  be extravagant.  Something nice but inexpensive or something that shows you thought  of him I think would be suitable.  

  • YOu have built a testimony by standing for the marriage.  Would buying or not buying a gift  add to or subtract to your testimony?

  • Is this where you need to lead your heart?

  • Buying a gift would add to my testimony. Not buying would show selfishness, that I'm listening to the flesh and unforgiveness for the hurt and pain that he's let the enemy use him to cause me. Thanks Tim, you always know what to say to elevate my thinking.

  • Definitely need to lead my heart in this.

  • I'm thinking a lunch bag big enough for his water and other things because right now he uses two.

  • 1 Peter 3:9

    Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.

    Romans 12:17-21

    Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”says the Lord. On the contrary:

    “If your enemy is hungry, feed him;

       if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.

    In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”

    Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

    This is every bit for me as it is to you. I didn't buy my wife a mother's day gift or a birthday gift. My attorney said absolutely not but I still wanted to.

  • This is a great thread, Love in the face of opposition, Sowing love will reap love. If you chose To love, there is no room for hate, or disdain.

  • I think the lunch bag is a great idea.  It isn't over the top where he thinks your trying to buy him back with a big gift, but shows you are in tune with his needs and his daily life.  Added bonus, and I know you didn't do it for this reason, but he will use it everyday and this is one thing that can give him a good reminder of you.  NOt that we plan things to remind them of us.  

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