I picked golf as the issue to focus on giving into. I actually started last night.
My husband seems to focus on the what and not the why, right now with the help of Jesus I am learning a lot about myself and why I react to things the way I do. He's been working in his current job since last October and has played in two golf tournaments (volunteering me for one). Selfishly, I've been thinking that if he gets involved with golf he will give all his time and attention to the sport, and since he is playing with his coworkers, to them. I am telling him today that he deserves to spend his free time the way he wants, after all it is his free time.
2 years ago we moved to an area where I am very isolated, and have virtually no friends and have been clinging to him desperately-even more so because there are very few jobs in my field-my security has been rocked to the core, instead of leaning on my faith at first I started to looking to my husband even more. Now I've turned to my faith and started volunteering at our church and having fellowship with some of the women I met there, it is so wonderful that I want more. Instead of complaining about not having a job I am going to go where Jesus sends me and meet the needs of people who really need my help!!
At the outset the Love Dare sounds so selfish, about me, helping my walk with Christ-focusing on someone elses needs is helping ground me and move my heart in the right direction. If it changes others in my family that is great!! I just have to leave that to the lord he knows what's best for everyone..
Phillipians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strenthens me..
It is your testimony that your family will see. That testimony will turn to conviction in them...
And as for the friends. I am sure Christ is guiding you to find the right ones. In these hard times you need Christian friends, not ones that believe what the world teaches.
Praise Him for His patience with you.