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Day 37 Round 2

Today's Dare is about Praying Together
I'll comment after the verses and the devotional

1 John 4:18-19
18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19 We love because he first loved us.

1 Timothy 2:1-2 (GNT)

Church Worship

2 First of all, then, I urge that petitions, prayers, requests, and thanksgivings be offered to God for all people;  2 for kings and all others who are in authority, that we may live a quiet and peaceful life with all reverence toward God and with proper conduct.

September 30

The Value of Obedience

Proverbs 2:1-6
1  My child, learn what I teach you and never forget what I tell you to do.   2  Listen to what is wise and try to understand it.   3  Yes, beg for knowledge; plead for insight.   4  Look for it as hard as you would for silver or some hidden treasure.   5  If you do, you will know what it means to fear the Lord and you will succeed in learning about God.   6  It is the Lord who gives wisdom; from him come knowledge and understanding.

Despite Peter's vast fishing experience, he returned from a night's work with nothing to show for his efforts. It's quite possible that the Lord's request to let the nets down one more time struck him as unreasonable—after all, Peter and his partners were the professionals. Nevertheless, the fisherman complied, and his obedience blessed many.

Scripture demonstrates that divine plans often defy human logic. For instance, who would design a battle  strategy that involved only marching and shouting? God told Joshua to conquer Jericho that way, and doing so proved successful (Josh. 6:1-5).

Moses is another example. When he felt unsure about his leadership potential, the Lord gave reassurance in an unusual way—by telling him to throw down his walking stick. When Moses obeyed, God powerfully confirmed His choice of leader (Ex. 4:1-3).

Our Father may ask us to do something that seems illogical—perhaps to accept more responsibility when we were hoping to reduce our workload, to leave a position that He provided just recently, or to take on an assignment for which we feel ill-equipped. His plan might feel unrealistic in view of our age, stage of life, or health concerns. We must press forward in obedience, regardless of how impractical the request may appear.

To grasp the importance of obeying, think about children receiving instructions from parents or teachers. Careful listening is needed for the task to be done safely and properly. Some steps may seem pointless, but the rationale often becomes clear later. Always make obeying God your priority.

Sean Asked the following question:
But what if she was in a full blown affair, and she finds that grass is not greener. Comes back, and then you find out she was in a full blown affair. What do you do?

If I choose to end the marriage then the marriage is over, done, no reconciliation.  If I choose to not end my marriage then there is a chance for reconciliation.  The biggest question, is can I truly forgive.  Do i have that in me?  I don't know even through prayer and Christ if I will be able to do that
Sean also said:
Lead your heart to your wife. In fact, right now in your head try to divorce your marriage, but not your wife. Declare the divorce of the old marriage before you start. And truly focus on Christ and the wife of your youth.

I need more clarification on that, I'm not sure what you are asking.  What I've been trying to do is end my marriage in my head, and then if she wants to come back, treat her like someone I just met, where the past doesn't matter.  She hasn't come back yet, but that is what I have been thinking I could try.

As for growing. I am in Celebrate Recovery, where the groups are segregated by sex.  I also do Iron Men on Sunday Mornings.  12 Step CR and a Life Group.

As for the phone call yesterday, it wasn't a big deal.  She wants me to do a favor, possibly visit the dog, her boss left for another position at work, and she talked about having to get separate car insurance because I could lose the policy since she doesn't live at my address anymore.

I prayed about needing money to be able to meet some bills this month.  I received a loan offer that is more than enough to help me out in the mail yesterday and was approved online.  So I should get the loan in a day or two.  That was God showing me he provides.

The devotional and advice from a few others has shown me that I need to listen to God.  I will pray about it. 

The hardest part for me is thinking I'm okay then an emotional setback, and I'm not okay for a while.  I don't want to suffer anymore.  But didn't I post 1 Peter 1:6-7.  So is this God's way of molding me into the man he wants me to be.  If I humble myself and turn to Christ, I should be able to get through this.  I just need to be patient and wait.  There are others here that for a fact know that the person was in a full blown affair and are still holding on.  If they can do that, shouldn't I be able to do that?  Will I be able to forgive?

I struggling with my decision, to give up, walk away, or to keep standing.



  • I think if you give up or walk away, you will always have regrets.  But, if you keep standing, whether you reconcile or she ends it, you will always know you did all you could to honor God and your covenant between you, her, and Christ.  

    What she actually wanted to discuss is a reminder that we need to believe the best.  And also to have no expectations.  I will have to admit, i thought it may have been  something not too desirable she wanted to discuss.

  • I have lived with a man who openly admits being in love with another woman for a year now.  I know her and her husband.  He is standing for his marriage as I am standing for mine.  We have daughters in the same grade at school.  My husband has been fired from a prestigious job and kicked off half a dozen boards and committees including being deacon of our church.  She has been let go from her job teaching at my children's school.  It is the best soap opera to hit our small town in a long time.  I can't begin to list the things his affair has cost me.  He is still involved with her.  Love is unconditional only when it comes from above.  I love him more than I ever have even though I have no respect for the person he is right now.  Don't worry about forgiving.  God supplies what you need.  1 Peter 4:8 is my verse for my marriage now.  Don't give up over things you don't even know.

  • Your fighting the flesh. The worlds way to love is conditional. However, God is working He is molding you my friend.

    Don't try to divorce your wife in your mind. When you do this you will allow the enemy to take your intentions and turn them into anger etc... This is where you focus on praising God for His attributes, His always forgiving, unconditional love etc... And seek out His blessing of molding those attributes into you.

    Lead your heart to your wife while waiting on the Lord.

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