Day 34 Round 2
In Round 1 it was after my accident and my wife came to help me out.
I'm not sure what to praise her Christianity for right now.
I think it should be about allowing me to get a new phone and putting that on the current plan.
Or maybe I should address it that she has shown great kindness and compassion for me many times since she moved out.
I will pray on this.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (GNT)
19 Don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and who was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourselves but to God; 20 he bought you for a price. So use your bodies for God's glory.
Maybe the kindness thing.. You know how difficult it is to show genuine kindness.. :)
So E texted me about getting a new phone. Basically offering her assistance if need be because she's the primary on the account. Like she needs to be there or call them.
I texted her back, "Will Do. Thanks for being so helpful and kind about everything"
E's response, "Shawn I can't impress upon you enough that I don't want you and I ever to be anything other than cordial. I understand that this is a painful situation for both of us. But for as long as you and I ever have to talk or see each other I want to be nice and helpful to you and would think that you would grant me the same. We do share a dog. I know what your thoughts are as far as Shinny but I would really request that you think about that long and hard because he loves and adores both of us and I think he should remain in both our lives. You and I had a 13-year relationship. An 8-year marriage. just because we are no longer going to be in a marital or romantic relationship I do not think means that we throw away the cordiality that I think that we can both afford the other person. We were in each other's lives for a very very long time. I think I owe you respect and I would hope that you feel the same towards me."
I responded, "I still have to appreciate you for how you are. There is enough pain that things could have easily gotten nasty, but you still treat me well, so thanks for being a Godly woman."
I actually got hurt by her message. Still sounds like an end to the marriage to me.
E's Response, "You have been Godly also. And I appreciate you being Godly. And I appreciate you appreciating me and I also appreciate you. This text sounds silly but I am actually being sincere"
What she says and what she does are two different things. She sees Christ in you. Her hurting is probably being separate from you but also the conviction she feels, having a good idea she is in the wrong. It is hard to battle Christ and her conscience.
It can be difficult to see things clearly when we are so focused on things that may not be where we should. For example, we may have a little hardness and we can pick out their mistakes wily and dwell on them. However, in order to lead our hearts and overcome the enemies intent on making things worse and lead our hearts to think about the good in our spouses.
Pray on it, and now instead of finding faults seek only the good. And when bad things come, look on the good.