Day 22 - Round 2
Love is Faithful
Love is a choice, not a feeling.
Marriage Principle #1: If you want a healthy marriage, it all starts with how you define love. Here’s the first principle of a healthy marriage: Love is a choice, not just a feeling. you have to get love right. Feelings aren’t bad – but they come and go. The valiant part of marital love is the choosing part.
Ephesians 5:25-27 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish
I need to say something to my wife like the following:"I love you even if you don't love me in return.I will always love you."
I pray for the opportunity or courage to do so today. I've had migraines for 5 days straight, so I feel weak on courage to do this today.
Verses of the day for me.
Psalm 97:10 (NRSVA)
10 The Lord loves those who hate evil; he guards the lives of his faithful; he rescues them from the hand of the wicked.
I feel the enemy has been playing with my thoughts again. I've been looking to move on from the marraige and give up.I prayed earlier today to keep me on the path to be faithful to continue fighting for my marriage.
Psalm 27:14 14 Wait for the Lord;be strong, and let your heart take courage;wait for the Lord!
A reminder to be patient and wait for him to do his work.
Par posted something on her last post here
Par's View from the Bench
I had a similar thing that happen to me.
I received a notification on my phone that my wife signed up for Kik.I've had Kik since my ex roommate/friend told me about it some time ago.Only chatted with him on it. My wife's friends haven't changed so doubtful one of them uses it.
A lot of people on dating websites use Kik. So in my mind, she is signing up to chat with someone on a dating website.
Instead of feeling hurt. I felt sorry for her. To think that she is looking on dating websites for a man, when the man of her dreams is just a phone call or text away. I know that the man God is molding me to be is what she has desired for so long.
If she could only get her heart back to the woman who wrote:
"Happy 12 years my love Shawn. 12 years ago today I met my destiny. You were and are still the best decision I made to never give up and work on us. Thru the ups and downs and the blessed but rare middle of the line years I am grateful to have met my best friend in this life and after."
Just reading that and remembering how she chose to love me then. Hopefully she will get back there some day.
Thank you Lord for the Gift of my wife, she chose to love me for almost 13 years, and I pray that her heart will open up to me again Lord.That she will again choose to love me.
Find a bench and sit with Him whose strength and love help us do the impossible! Wait and watch :).
When I feel I am being attacked I have to remember - who am I not to believe - even when my eyes don't see! Powerful just like our God! You share a great testimony Snaz and she sees this along with all of us on the site!
Keep looking at Love believes the best. There are several reasons she may have signed up for KIK. Do not assume it was for the reason you mentioned. Even if it is true, God can use that to show her the males out there are not worth her time.
I know the flesh comes up with these ideas so quickly, but we have to reduce the flesh while Christ's love in us increases. I had similar thoughts myself for a bit this evening.
Just like the song in fireproof. "While I'm waiting". Listen to the lyrics very close.
Right now you must worry about your journey and growth. Seek wisdom for the specific things God still needs to mold you, so that your testimony can be what your wife needs to see Christ working.
Focus prayer on her salvation, to find Christ through this journey. And for God to fill every void you have while you wait on Him and His perfect plan.