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Love vs Lust--Day 24

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So this is one that I may need to come back to.  I've read and re-read the chapter on this one.  I've contemplated the concepts, and I'm not easily able to identify anything that falls into the category of lust for me.  Part of me thinks that I'm not looking hard enough or that maybe I'm rationalizing those things that might indicate more of a lustful nature.  The other part of me says I should be thankful that this isn't one of my struggles.  At least blatant lust has no part of our marriage.  I've read so many journal posts or blog posts from couples struggling with blatant lust in the form of infidelity in their marriage, and I could just not imagine having to deal with that again.  I have to admit that I'm not the type of person to be able to let something like that go.  For me, that's where the deal breaker lies.  I just can not continue in a marriage where there is infidelity because I don't know how to even begin rebuilding trust.  Maybe it's a lack of a forgiving nature, but I take the fact that this is the only biblically sanctioned grounds for divorce and I run with it.

But then again, there have always been other negative factors in my previous marriages that made that choice easy.  It's super easy to leave an abusive relationship once they begin cheating on you or you have good reason to suspect that they are.  It's like it puts the rest of the abuse into perspective and something inside you...some kind of fight instinct kicks in and you admit that you're worth more than that.

But I so deeply love my husband that I don't know what I would do if I ever had to face this type of lust issue with him.  I'm not sure which would hurt more...the destruction of trust and pain that it would cause or the thought that I wouldn't have him in my life anymore.  This would be a tough choice to make, and so perhaps this is the way all those women and men who are doing the love dare with an unfaithful spouse keep making those changes and sacrifices and keep hoping for God to restore their relationships.

I am truly blessed to have a husband who doesn't lust after other women.  God has answered my prayers to protect him from that temptation, and I am so very grateful for that.

So I will keep pondering to see if lust could have made it's way into our lives in another form, but for now I'm going to keep being grateful for the lack of an obvious issue with lust.

  • As for the people with unfaithful spouses, yes, it can be tough, but when we see how God loves us unconditionally and forgives us, we can always take our eyes off of ourselves and focus on Christ, and do the same for our spouse and as He does for us.  And choose to forgive and to love.  

    Christ asks us to sacrifice, and that trials will be there.  

    I am grateful you do not have to face this type of trial.

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