Collaborate without boundaries

love dare day 39 round 2

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I wrote a letter to Chris today and ended up emailing it. Something along the lines of I will be here forever and wont give up. I also thanked him for going to counseling with me. I have been with people in the past the cheated on me or just gave up when times got hard. I thought it was always me that was wrong bc of the people I was with. Every relationship has its hardships but Chris really loves me and wants to make our relationship better and stronger and for that I am thankful. I asked God for the strength to keep positive motivation and not get angry or resentful when he says unkind things. To find the root of the problem and pray about and fix it. 

 

This morning he was taking a shower and for some reason the hot water went out. He was screaming every obscenity in the book. I was laying in bed and so was my daughter. It really hurt bc he was screaming it was our fault "what are you f'ing doing, turn off the water, G D it." I hadnt even gotten out of bed yet and I was already getting yelled at. I told him we werent touching the water and held my tongue strong!! It hurt that he was screaming at me when I wasnt doing anything. I was thinking wow this is my first experience of today. Then I thought I would think it was someone else if I was in the shower too, I wouldnt scream out like that but it would be unpleasant. I still held my tongue and left for the bus stop. He acted like nothing happened. I still love him and am trying to not have that expectation... doesnt hurt any less.

  • Uggggh. My wife yelled at me also for no reason yesterday. I have no idea if my advice is worth two cents but I would say, just like you did, hold your tongue and later, once everything is calm tell him how you felt. Use "I feel" statements and don't point the finger or blame him. He is more than likely unaware that his yelling had the affect it did on you.

    "Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience."

    Colossians 3:12

    "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."

    Ephesians 4:2

  • Continue to bite your tongue in these situations and let God deal with him.  Instead of hurting from his words, feel sorry for him, then pray unselfishly for him.  And let go of the hurt and let God handle that too for you.

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