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Day 41: Love is Patient

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Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

—Ephesians 4:2 NIV

Today's Dare

The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose to not say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.

Round 2, I can’t believe I have made it through round 1. Unbeleiveable! If I look at back the 7th May 2012, wow, what a sad day for me. I was going to ask hubby for a divorce, because I could not take the uncertainty any longer, I did not want to be 2nd to anyone else in his life. Has much changed? Yes and no. No, because I still do not have any certainty about his intentions and truthfulness, but YES because I have changed, and I have, in my walk with Christ, made peace with not having to know everything. So am I mighty and all powerful, no, by no means, and some days I battle with it still, but thank God for the Love Dare. Praise Him for walking with me and giving me strength when I desperately need it. When temptation and doubt are strong, He is stronger! So I can take anything to Him in prayer and he strengthens me. He keeps me standing, when I feel I can’t anymore.

Most of the dares, I do in general, so I won’t change that, but some of the dares, I haven ot been as succesfull in as what I have hoped, but round 2 is a new beginning for me, a chance to adjust some of my thinking patterns and to try and better on the previous round.

It was easy today not to say anything negative to my spouse. He did not work and we had a wonderful day together as a family. We did some shopping, Got him gloves for Father’s day and a new jacket and some much needed other necessities. He always put me and the kids first and we hardly ever get to buy him new clothes etc., so today we spoiled him a bit, by making the day about him, and his needs.

Later the evening Hubby thanked me for a lovely day. He said he really enjoyed it. Being weekend I did not expect much, but he took up his bible again and had prayer and devotion time, when I did mine. Praise God!

  • Some of the dares were not as successful as you hoped.... That is because you are not seeking Chirsts wisdom through those situations. In those situations you at having expectation of some sort. But remember there are times that Christ is going to humble you. So in those dares that in your mind were not successful, look closer. We're you humbled? Did it give you part of your story that one day will be a testimony? I assure you that every single dare is a success with blessing. But for Christ, maybe not for your desire.

    Seek out wisdom on each dare, remember it is a molding process which means each day it is something new. Even if Christ makes you realize a shortcoming in a dare that is a huge success.

  • In a moment of weakness at counseling last week, I cried to my counselor "Why?  Why cant I just do the dares perfect one time through?  I've been through this thing three rounds, just started on the fourth and I see where I messed up again."

    Her reply "You'll never do them perfect."

    As Sean said, ALL dares are a success, because you got through it.  

  • This is so true, and I do say, not so successful, because I realize that I have taken things into my own hands too many times! :-) So yes, I have been humbled many times and it is great. I do however have expectations, but not so much aimed at my husband, but more expecting me to not take matters into my own hands!

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