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Love is not Selfish

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Unfortunately, I was unable to complete today's dare, with my husband or anyone else. I have no money until the 20th. And I'm not even sure that my husband will put money in the account, so I may not have money until the end of the month. But I am choosing to believe the best. I am still very frustrated with him. He has been spending so much money that we don't have. I started my own business about 1 year ago. Last month was the first month that I made my goal amount, which gave us about $500 extra for the month. He has spent it all, and then some. He is continuing to move money out of our savings account for unnecessary purchases, such as going out to eat multiple times a week. I know that God will provide for me, and I believe that God is the reason that my business if finally where I wanted it to be. It's just so difficult to be so divided, and know there is nothing I can do about it. 

On a more positive note, I did file for conciliation counseling today. Legally, we will be required to attend one session with a court-appointed counselor before a divorce can be finalized. If our counselor believes that our marriage can be reconciled, than they can require additional counseling. I will be praying that the right person is assigned to our case. That God would give them the discernment to see that he is making decisions from a place of depression, not a true desire to end the marriage. 

I also spent some time with a friend. This friend doesn't know much about my current situation, which is nice because I can just have normal conversations with someone. She is going to let my dog's out a few times so that I can go spend Christmas Day at my mom's house. My mom lives about 2 and 1/2 hours away, so it is going to be a long day for me. But I don't want to spend the day at home by myself, so it is a sacrifice I will have to make to have a somewhat normal holiday.

 

  • I thought of the scripture Philippians 4:19 and my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus. I pray this for you, my friend.

    It is good to spend time with friends. Even though they don't know your situation it sounds like you enjoyed friendship support. Surround yourself with positive people. I am glad to hear you will be spending Christmas with your Mom. That sounds like a wonderful plan. You know if you don't have any money I know God knows that...why not make him a special dessert or something like that...God knows your situation.

  • Like Peggy said, make something, even a hand written card just saying Hi.  Or a bubble gum machine trinket that reminds you of him or someone.  Dont spend money, but next round, find pray about finding a creative way to do the dare.

  • He's spending money he should not.  Have you metnioned this to him?  I  think you have a hard time getting even a moment to talk to him if I remember.  But you have a right to say something if it is putting you or the household in jeopardy.

    Enjoy Christmas.  It will be a nice reprieve spending time with your mom.  Be in peace..

  • He's spending money he should not.  Have you metnioned this to him?  I  think you have a hard time getting even a moment to talk to him if I remember.  But you have a right to say something if it is putting you or the household in jeopardy.

    Enjoy Christmas.  It will be a nice reprieve spending time with your mom.  Be in peace..

  • tim, I have mentioned his spending to him. He informed me that he has always spent his money on things for us, and he wasn't planning on going crazy so it would be fine. I'm not even sure he realizes how much he is really spending. I have taken some action to protect myself. I took all of our bills off of autopay. As soon as the money is in the account, I will pay the bills for that pay period. Then I will take out the amount that I need for groceries, gas and personal spending, based on what we had agreed upon when we did still discuss our finances.

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