Collaborate without boundaries

Day 13 - Rules of Engagement

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My wife has been out of town the last few days.  She returned this evening.  She was tired and didnt feel like talking.  I didnt have a chance to do the dare with her today.  However, I wrote a me and we list that I hope to share one day.  Even though we didnt talk about the dare, we did share some communication.  She was thankful of cleaning the house, and of a couple of clothing items that I purchased for her.  We actually communicated like human beings and not enemies.  Small victories.

  • Be careful about doing more than the dare for  the day, like buying clothing. Sometimes doing to much can backfire, because they look at it as us invading their space.  

    Thank God for the  decent night.

    If I remember, this dare says you don't have to share, so a dare complete.  As you continue the dares, the list you made will become more and more natural for you to follow without realizing it.  

  • Yes- be careful of doing too much. I bought my wife a necklace for Christmas and stupidly decided to give it to her early. She loved it and told me it was beautiful, then she told my 15 year old daughter that I think it's going to make her change her mind about leaving me but it's not. So it backfired.

    Let your actions speak for you- not gifts. If you get a chance pick up the book "The Five Love Languages." Figure out yours and if possible ask her to take the test. There's actually a free online test you can take to figure it out.

    I'm a gift giver and although my wife didn't take the test I'm certain her love language is "Words of Affirmation, so I have never spoken her love language. I used to buy her stuff all the time but that is not what is important to her. Telling her "job well done" or "thanks for doing that" is her love language.

    When you communicate pretend Jesus is in the room with you. Don't say anything that He would not approve of.

    "Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour."

    1 Peter 5:8

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