Collaborate without boundaries

Day 27

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I told my spouse that I expected too much of him and for that I will stop. I did not ask him for anything beyond coming home and doing what he wanted. Even that made him upset. He was angry with me over nothing. In fact I have found out from him that the prospect of a new person was exciting. Then as we are talking his phone beeps with a message. I knew then that he is already trying to find a new person. Instead of lashing out I gave him privacy and I pray. It is hard knowing he is biding his time and hunting other people. What a let down for me. 

  • Love believes the  best, that the beep could have been a male friend, a telemarketer, or a wrong number.  the flesh goes t o the negative and evil wants us to do so as well.   80% of what we worry about happening doesn't happen, 15% we end up making it out to be much worse than what it really is, and 5% we forgive and continue to love  unconditionally.

    Our  spouses  like  to say things like that just to rile us and get a reaction out of us, to show us we really haven't changed.  

  • and you gave him no reaction, which is good.  He does have free will, so pray that God's will is done in his life.

  • And pray a barrier is placed between him and the opposite sex and you also have  to pray for any potential people  of the opposite sex and being willing to forgive them as well if they talk to your husband.  Not saying he will ever talk to  the opposite sex.  

  • 1. As my preacher tells me a lot- At this point we are at, your spouse is going to find the negative in everything you say or do. My wife and I were having a discussion with our kids at the dinner table one day last week and our daughter had an assignment due the next day in which she had to read an entire book to answer some questions that there was no possible way she could finish. Her older brother said he could get the answers for her and I said do you think so. Immediately my wife jumped on that and said "So you're going to condone cheating?" It just came out of my mouth before I could think about it. I just said "No I was just brainstorming. You're right. That is a terrible idea." So trust me, our spouses are looking at every little detail to find something that they can use to justify their behavior. We are not perfect by far and possible even more flawed than our spouses but we need to have to grace to admit that and overlook their flaws- especially right now when they need us the most.

    2. Do not assume anything about what made his phone beep. That will only drive you mad. No good can come from worrying about something that you have absolutely no control over. You can't control him. You can only control yourself. Show your husband that God rules your life, not him.

    "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God."

    Philippians 4:6

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