01-11-2011 – Day 12 – Love lets the other win. Thanks again for all the comments. Thanks Sean for reminding me what I have been through before and posted before. I do make an effort to read posts from people here and my older posts as the...

04-29-2010 I have been away this week for training. It seemed like a good idea a couple of weeks ago to be gone from the house and give Laura her space and time to miss me. Now, I missed her like crazy. I thought about us, my life, my relationship with...

Day One – Last chance already done? Time to get right with God! Laura has told me that she wants to move and divorce. She hates me for ruining our perfect life together. She feels that she can't trust me not to hurt her anymore. She feels like...

12-23-2010 - Day 1 – Love is Patient. So I start again, for probably the last time. As I posted before I am pretty much at my lowest point. Laura has seen a lawyer, she has the paperwork for a divorce in her hands. She has talked with me and started...

09-18-2010 – Day 33/Part 2 – Love Completes Each Other Today asked me to tell, remind Laura that I seek her counsel, her opinions matter and I need her input with my decisions. This has not really been an issue. When we were having major problems...

Day 17 – 01/22/2011 – Love Promotes Intimacy Intimacy is out of the question for us. She won't even allow me to kiss, hug or hold her. Wow, talk about pulling away. The weekend started weird and went downhill from there, with a small bright...

01/31/2011 – Confused again. Everything was clear and now it is clouded. Thank you all for your prayers, your concerns, your words and suggestions. I assure you all that I have not turned my back on God and I know I must put Him first in my life...

01-08-2011 – Day 11 – Love Cherishes I came home from our day away and Laura greeted the kids with a nice hug and me with a half-hearted hug. I went for a kiss and was greeted with hair again. I asked what was wrong. She finally told me, she...

09-16/17-2010 Day 32/Part 2 – Love Meets Sexual Needs I came home from training Thursday evening and spent a nice evening on the couch, watching some TV, talking and catching up with Laura, nothing major or heavy. We flirted a little bit but she...

Day 14 – 01/14/2011 – Love takes delight There is nothing to give up to spend time with Laura. She thinks I am home too much already. Actually half kidding with that statement but she has told me that we do not 'need' to do everything...

08-28-2010 – Day 24/Part2 – Love vs. Lust Home from work this morning and sensing some awkwardness with interactions with Laura. She got up, talked a bit, did her computer stuff and headed out to take the oldest shopping. I stayed home with...

Day 18 – 01/24/2011 – Love seeks to understand. So I have been slapped in the face again, a wake up call. Laura told me exactly what you guys have been telling me and now I need to listen. I sent her an email admitting my failings (I know...

12-24-2010 – Day 2 – Love is Kind The rest of yesterday was awesome. We watched some shows together and went to bed, together. We were intimate for the first time in ages. I slept better than I have in months. I believed there is chance for...

Another couple of good days. I was wondering how things would be after a good couple of days and then I worked Tuesday, a couple of texts Tuesday were nice. Wednesday I was gone all day teaching, until 10pm at night. I did see her in class at noon for...

Normal 0 false false false MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 09-22-2010 Day 35/Part 2 – Love is Accountable I have the same problem with this dare as I did in Part 1. There just aren’t any good, stable marriages in our lives that we see anymore....

01-06/07-2011 – Day 10 – Love is Unconditional After yesterday's exchange I left it be. I am learning, I prayed, found 'busy' work around the station house and had a good day. She texted me at night telling me phone and internet...

12-28-2010 - Day 5 - Love is not rude I decided against asking her what 3 things she considered most important for me to work on, or my issues. She has been totally honest throughout the relationship with me, my issues, she just doesn't hold back...

12-30-2010 – Day 6 – Love is Not Irritable To start I will address some comments with Day 5, Stephen suggested I ask about the information already presented to me. I did. I told Laura what I perceived as my biggest issues and how I was changing...

Day 4 – Bleaker Still. I pray for God's comfort because this is killing me. We went to the martial arts formal dinner/dance last night. She hardly said anything to me during dinner, a table was her, I and the kids so we didn't speak. I asked...

Day 15 – 01/17/2011 – Love is Honorable I had a great couple of days off. No intimacy, but a good couple of days with my wife, at least while she is still my wife. I came home Sunday AM. And took a quick nap. I showered and took my eldest...

01-05-2011 – Day 9 – Love is not irritable Well, it has gone bad again and unlike the last few time I cannot put my finger on why, I swear I didn't do anything wrong this time. I came home from work Tuesday and Laura was gone shopping...

04-09-2010 - so day was pretty easy. I held my tongue and didn't say anything negative, argumentative to my wife. I was patient. I started the day with a friend for breakfast and met my wife at martial arts class at noon. We had a quick greeting,...

Day 13 – 01/12/2011 – Love fights fair We haven't been fighting, sometimes I think that would be an improvement, It would show that she is putting in an effort and shows that she actually cares about what happens to us. At least anger...

12-25-2010 – Day 3 – Love is Not Selfish. Today asked me to get her something that told her I was thinking about her today. As yesterday was Christmas I got her tickets to a show she wanted, even though we agreed not to exchange gifts. I am...

01-03-2010 – Day 8 – Love is not Jealous Destroying her negative list was easy, again. I try not to think negatively of her, even when I do not agree with her reaction to our current situation. I am accepting her pulling away and needing time...