10-27-2010 – Things are actually getting worse So thing have actually got worse. She is barely speaking to me, when she does she speaks at me rather than to me. She complains and has asked that I don't keep telling her that I love her, that...

Day One – Last chance already done? Time to get right with God! Laura has told me that she wants to move and divorce. She hates me for ruining our perfect life together. She feels that she can't trust me not to hurt her anymore. She feels like...

12-07-2010 An update – because some of you asked...... I have, obviously, stopped the third time round dare. Laura has spoken to a Pro-Se attorney, has taken money from the checking account and started her own checking account, on her own. She is...

10-22-2010 – Day 1 – starting again, kind of. After much thinking and praying I have decided to start again, kind of, I have picked up.....well, actually it was a gift from Laura back in August, the Love Dare Day-by-Day devotional. I will...

10-26-2010 – An OK day, with doubts and apprehension. I was off work today, wife and I spent the day on the couch watching TV and relaxing. It was nice being close to her, but I could tell that I was annoying her from time-to-time with questions...

01-08-2011 – Day 11 – Love Cherishes I came home from our day away and Laura greeted the kids with a nice hug and me with a half-hearted hug. I went for a kiss and was greeted with hair again. I asked what was wrong. She finally told me, she...

07-28-2010 I am still struggling with major jealousy issues. I am still trying very hard, sometimes even successfully, to stop peeking at my wife’s computer usage. I am trying very hard to trust in God and trust in my wife. Again, at this time,...

Introduction – 07/30/2010 I have completed the Love Dare – part 1. 40 days spread over a 4 month period that took me from separation to being together again to the verge of divorce. I have only myself to blame. Looking back, I have no idea...

08-16-2010 – Day 16/Part 2 – Love Intercedes Today I was dared to pray for my wife in 3 specific areas. I chose to pray (or continue to pray) for her to (1) keep her heart and mind open and accept God and to (2) seek God for His comfort and...

Normal 0 false false false MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 10-09-2010 Part 2 – What an Amazing, Confusing couple of days! After my last post a couple of you posted that I had better not give up. Sean – you had some great points and that was obvious...

Day 17 – 01/22/2011 – Love Promotes Intimacy Intimacy is out of the question for us. She won't even allow me to kiss, hug or hold her. Wow, talk about pulling away. The weekend started weird and went downhill from there, with a small bright...

01/31/2011 – Confused again. Everything was clear and now it is clouded. Thank you all for your prayers, your concerns, your words and suggestions. I assure you all that I have not turned my back on God and I know I must put Him first in my life...

12-30-2010 – Day 6 – Love is Not Irritable To start I will address some comments with Day 5, Stephen suggested I ask about the information already presented to me. I did. I told Laura what I perceived as my biggest issues and how I was changing...

Normal 0 false false false MicrosoftInternetExplorer4 10-04-2010Part 2 – Done, I have no idea what to do next Laura hates me, she is not close to me, she says she doesn’t feel close to me, she has forgiven me and opened herself to me so many...

12-23-2010 - Day 1 – Love is Patient. So I start again, for probably the last time. As I posted before I am pretty much at my lowest point. Laura has seen a lawyer, she has the paperwork for a divorce in her hands. She has talked with me and started...

Day 4 – Bleaker Still. I pray for God's comfort because this is killing me. We went to the martial arts formal dinner/dance last night. She hardly said anything to me during dinner, a table was her, I and the kids so we didn't speak. I asked...

09-16/17-2010 Day 32/Part 2 – Love Meets Sexual Needs I came home from training Thursday evening and spent a nice evening on the couch, watching some TV, talking and catching up with Laura, nothing major or heavy. We flirted a little bit but she...

09-21-2010 Day 34/Part 2 – Love Celebrates Godliness We watched church this morning together; the message was great, about honesty and lying. It asked some tough questions and asked us to grade ourselves. After church I asked my wife how her grading...

Day 29/Part 2 – Love’s Motivation I came back from my week away hunting with so much promise, good feeling and optimism and now, on the verge of leaving again for a 3 day (mandatory) training, I am feeling depressed and lonely and unloved...

08-09-2010 – Day 9/Part 2 – Love makes good impressions. So, an addendum to Day 8 – I finished typing and put the laptop away. I was watching stupid stuff on TV and had let the kids out in the yard to play with their friends and resolved...

08-08-2010 – Day 10/Part 2 – Love is unconditional I chatted with my wife on the phone last night for about 10 minutes, she had called me with a question about one of the kids and we had a nice talk about day to day happenings, nothing heavy...

08-11-2010 – Day 11/Part 2 – Love Cherishes So, you are NOT going to believe this! This, as I type, has been the strangest 24 hours I have experienced yet……and most of it has been positive. Last night she came home from my brother’s...

08-12-2010 Day 12/Part 2 – Love lets the other win. So a quick ‘ps’ to Day 11 – I did complete the dare for the day, I made breakfast for everyone before we went our separate ways. Breakfast of eggs, toast and tea, and I did the...

08-06-2010 – Day 6/Part 2 – Love is not irritable. My wife sent me an e-mail today that said that she is miserable emotionally hurt and that is why she is withdrawing, going to bed early and reading by herself. She added that God is speaking...

05-31-2010 Well I am three quarters of the way through this and cannot believe how much the Lord has changed my life. I am a happier person, more patient, a better husband and have flushed a ton of distracting habits from my life. On Sunday we went to...