08-21-2010 - Day 18/Part 2 - Love Seeks to Understand The dinner, at this time, is a no-go. My father-in-law is staying with us until he gets back on his feet again after he and his second wife have split (it’s in the freakin’ water I swear...

08-17-2010 – Day 17/Part 2 – Love promotes intimacy Today’s dare is to safeguard my wife’s secrets. My wife’s secrets are minimal. I think her only ‘secret’ isn’t really a secret and that is that she is...

08-16-2010 – Day 16/Part 2 – Love Intercedes Today I was dared to pray for my wife in 3 specific areas. I chose to pray (or continue to pray) for her to (1) keep her heart and mind open and accept God and to (2) seek God for His comfort and...

08-15-2010 – Day 15/Part 2 – Love is honorable. Home – today has been rough again. I wanted to spend time talking with Laura and just being with her this morning but ended up chasing small children around the water park. We spent the...

08-14-2010 – Day 14/Part 2 – Love takes delight Today was difficult to do as we are on vacation at the Dells so I improvised. I gave Laura time. I watched the young children at the water park today and gave her time at the table. She read...

08-12-2010 – Day 13/Part 2 – Love fights fair. I stand by my list that I drew up for myself in part 1 of this dare. I try and live, and argue by that list. As I am doing part 2 of this dare I re-read my part 1 dares to see where my mind and...

08-12-2010 Day 12/Part 2 – Love lets the other win. So a quick ‘ps’ to Day 11 – I did complete the dare for the day, I made breakfast for everyone before we went our separate ways. Breakfast of eggs, toast and tea, and I did the...

08-11-2010 – Day 11/Part 2 – Love Cherishes So, you are NOT going to believe this! This, as I type, has been the strangest 24 hours I have experienced yet……and most of it has been positive. Last night she came home from my brother’s...

08-08-2010 – Day 10/Part 2 – Love is unconditional I chatted with my wife on the phone last night for about 10 minutes, she had called me with a question about one of the kids and we had a nice talk about day to day happenings, nothing heavy...

08-09-2010 – Day 9/Part 2 – Love makes good impressions. So, an addendum to Day 8 – I finished typing and put the laptop away. I was watching stupid stuff on TV and had let the kids out in the yard to play with their friends and resolved...

08-08-2010 – Day 8/ Part2 – Love is not jealous Today’s entry is early. My wife has headed to bed early again and I am sitting downstairs watching TV and my kids. Laura said she didn’t sleep well last night (she was up late last...

08-07-2010 – Day 7/Part 2 – Love believes the best Today’s dare has me writing the good and bad lists out again. I did this without reviewing part 1 of the dare and found that Laura’s positive list remained pretty much the same...

08-06-2010 – Day 6/Part 2 – Love is not irritable. My wife sent me an e-mail today that said that she is miserable emotionally hurt and that is why she is withdrawing, going to bed early and reading by herself. She added that God is speaking...

08-05-2010 - Day 5/Part 2 – Love is not rude And BOOM! Everything blows up in my face again! Last night Laura said she didn’t sleep well and went to bed early, no love, no kiss, no hug, no ‘us’ time. I am banging my head against...

08-04-2010 – Day 4/Part2 – Love is Thoughtful Today asked me to contact my wife during the day and ask her just about her day and ask her if she needed anything. She beat me to the punch, texting me just after her martial arts noon class and...

08-03-2010 - Day 3/Part 2 – Love is not selfish I find myself at work again today, on day 3 of the dare. I gave her a small gift yesterday evening (as I am gone today), a copy of the Fireproof movie and she said that we would sit down and watch...

08-02-2010 – Day 2/Part 2 – Love is Kind Today was my 7 year wedding anniversary with Laura. We, obviously, were not making a huge deal of it with all of our problems but I didn’t want the day to pass. I ordered her flowers and wrote...

08-01-2010 - Day 1/Part 2 – Love is Patient Today was a good day. I held my tongue. I didn’t say or even imply anything negative towards my wife today. She made breakfast for the kids and then told me she was going up to the martial arts studio...

Introduction – 07/30/2010 I have completed the Love Dare – part 1. 40 days spread over a 4 month period that took me from separation to being together again to the verge of divorce. I have only myself to blame. Looking back, I have no idea...

07-28-2010 I am still struggling with major jealousy issues. I am still trying very hard, sometimes even successfully, to stop peeking at my wife’s computer usage. I am trying very hard to trust in God and trust in my wife. Again, at this time,...

07-14-2010 I wrote my commitment to our marriage out. I wrote why I was committed to our marriage. I told her why I was in love with her. The letter was 2 pages long. I printed it out and placed it in her martial arts book that reads on a regular basis...

07-03-2010 What is it that Laura dreams of. What is it that she really wants. Amazingly, we had this discussion while on vacation as well. She tells me that she wants to get our house in order, fixed up and paid off in the next five years. She tells me...

06-30-2010 We have been camping this week so my laptop has been getting some well deserved time off. My wife and I have been getting along well. My spiritual growth is continuing and when Laura and I disagree or have 'bad days' we still communicate...

06-20-2010 So, It has been a while since I last jotted down thoughts and progress in the journal. I was gone this week at a training, 12+ hours/day and exhausted when I got home. I taught 2 of the evenings and helped with a class the 3rd. This is not...

06-12-2010 So the really sad thing in this Dare is that we have no-one in our lives to model a good relationship or marriage on. Not one. I spoke with Laura about this yesterday, she still doesn't know that I am doing the Dare and told me that this...