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  • 01/31/2011 - The End.

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    01/31/2011 – Confused again. Everything was clear and now it is clouded. Thank you all for your prayers, your concerns, your words and suggestions. I assure you all that I have not turned my back on God and I know I must put Him first in my life...
  • Day 18 - a day of understanding, finally.

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    Day 18 – 01/24/2011 – Love seeks to understand. So I have been slapped in the face again, a wake up call. Laura told me exactly what you guys have been telling me and now I need to listen. I sent her an email admitting my failings (I know...
  • Day 17 - a step sideways. Am I losing focus?

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    Day 17 – 01/22/2011 – Love Promotes Intimacy Intimacy is out of the question for us. She won't even allow me to kiss, hug or hold her. Wow, talk about pulling away. The weekend started weird and went downhill from there, with a small bright...
  • Day 16 - another couple of good days. I am actually looking forward to being home again.

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    Another couple of good days. I was wondering how things would be after a good couple of days and then I worked Tuesday, a couple of texts Tuesday were nice. Wednesday I was gone all day teaching, until 10pm at night. I did see her in class at noon for...
  • Day 15 - a good couple of days off.

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    Day 15 – 01/17/2011 – Love is Honorable I had a great couple of days off. No intimacy, but a good couple of days with my wife, at least while she is still my wife. I came home Sunday AM. And took a quick nap. I showered and took my eldest...
  • Day 14 - still no love and I should back off more?

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    Day 14 – 01/14/2011 – Love takes delight There is nothing to give up to spend time with Laura. She thinks I am home too much already. Actually half kidding with that statement but she has told me that we do not 'need' to do everything...
  • Day 13 - no fighting, but would fighting would mean she cared a little bit.

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    Day 13 – 01/12/2011 – Love fights fair We haven't been fighting, sometimes I think that would be an improvement, It would show that she is putting in an effort and shows that she actually cares about what happens to us. At least anger...
  • Day 12 - no intimacy, but a mildly good day.

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    01-11-2011 – Day 12 – Love lets the other win. Thanks again for all the comments. Thanks Sean for reminding me what I have been through before and posted before. I do make an effort to read posts from people here and my older posts as the...
  • Day 11 - an end to intimacy.

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    01-08-2011 – Day 11 – Love Cherishes I came home from our day away and Laura greeted the kids with a nice hug and me with a half-hearted hug. I went for a kiss and was greeted with hair again. I asked what was wrong. She finally told me, she...
  • 01-06/07-2011 - Day 10 - and away I go. I am missing my time with my wife.

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    01-06/07-2011 – Day 10 – Love is Unconditional After yesterday's exchange I left it be. I am learning, I prayed, found 'busy' work around the station house and had a good day. She texted me at night telling me phone and internet...
  • Day 9 - still confused, but I have to believe the best of her.

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    01-05-2011 – Day 9 – Love is not irritable Well, it has gone bad again and unlike the last few time I cannot put my finger on why, I swear I didn't do anything wrong this time. I came home from work Tuesday and Laura was gone shopping...
  • Day 8 - a dinner date (??) and an OK evening, Less intimacy but still time together.

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    01-03-2010 – Day 8 – Love is not Jealous Destroying her negative list was easy, again. I try not to think negatively of her, even when I do not agree with her reaction to our current situation. I am accepting her pulling away and needing time...
  • Day 7 - Maybe some misreading, definitely some doubt again.

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    01-01-2011 – Day 7 – Love Believes the Best. The lists were the easy part of this dare. The same things keep showing up on them. Nothing there changes. Do not read this wrong. I put a lot of thought into them. I was heading out of town for...
  • Day 6 - adding margin, and some insecurity sneaks in.

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    12-30-2010 – Day 6 – Love is Not Irritable To start I will address some comments with Day 5, Stephen suggested I ask about the information already presented to me. I did. I told Laura what I perceived as my biggest issues and how I was changing...
  • Day 5 - If I ask she will think I haven't been paying attention........and I have.

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    12-28-2010 - Day 5 - Love is not rude I decided against asking her what 3 things she considered most important for me to work on, or my issues. She has been totally honest throughout the relationship with me, my issues, she just doesn't hold back...
  • Day 4 - A Nice Conversation but where does it go.

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    12-27-2010 – Day 4 – Love is Thoughtful I called her today. There was no answer so I left a message asking her if there was anything I could pick up for her and if there was anything she wanted for supper. I gave it a couple of hours with...
  • Day 3 - at work and actually missing my wife.

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    12-25-2010 – Day 3 – Love is Not Selfish. Today asked me to get her something that told her I was thinking about her today. As yesterday was Christmas I got her tickets to a show she wanted, even though we agreed not to exchange gifts. I am...
  • Day 2 - She said she is taking me back.

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    12-24-2010 – Day 2 – Love is Kind The rest of yesterday was awesome. We watched some shows together and went to bed, together. We were intimate for the first time in ages. I slept better than I have in months. I believed there is chance for...
  • Day 1 - starting again, for the final chance?

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    12-23-2010 - Day 1 – Love is Patient. So I start again, for probably the last time. As I posted before I am pretty much at my lowest point. Laura has seen a lawyer, she has the paperwork for a divorce in her hands. She has talked with me and started...
  • an update - because some of you asked.......

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    12-07-2010 An update – because some of you asked...... I have, obviously, stopped the third time round dare. Laura has spoken to a Pro-Se attorney, has taken money from the checking account and started her own checking account, on her own. She is...
  • Day 4 - Bleaker still, I pray for God's comfort because this is killing me.

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    Day 4 – Bleaker Still. I pray for God's comfort because this is killing me. We went to the martial arts formal dinner/dance last night. She hardly said anything to me during dinner, a table was her, I and the kids so we didn't speak. I asked...
  • Day 3 - getting worse, outlook really bad!

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    Day 3 – getting worse, outlook really bad. We are out of town for my daughter’s black belt promotion test. I came home in a good mood, decided to be agreeable to everything and that last about an hour. I took the dog to the kennel at her request...
  • 11-02-2010 – Day 2 – still in a bad place, thanks for your thoughts and prayers

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    11-02-2010 – Day 2 – still in a bad place, thanks for your thoughts and prayers Thanks everyone for you thoughts, prayers, encouragement and suggestions. I am listening to you and putting into practice everything that is suggested. The last...
  • Day One – Last chance already done? Time to get right with God!

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    Day One – Last chance already done? Time to get right with God! Laura has told me that she wants to move and divorce. She hates me for ruining our perfect life together. She feels that she can't trust me not to hurt her anymore. She feels like...
  • Things are actually getting worse

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    10-27-2010 – Things are actually getting worse So thing have actually got worse. She is barely speaking to me, when she does she speaks at me rather than to me. She complains and has asked that I don't keep telling her that I love her, that...
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