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Day 4- nerve racking

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 So I started the love Dare I am on day four. This morning was so I was so nervous, when I finally decided to call my husband who I have been separated feom, I felt nervous, sweating, anxious ,my heart was beating 1000 beats a minute. When I finally got the courage to call him it seemed like forever before he picked picked up the phone, he answered- with  a smile on my face I said good morning , are you aslee, did I wake you? I had to stop my ser becuase I was going  off track.! He answered and said no he was on his phone. I told him I was calling to see how he was doing.? He said he was good.  He asked me what I was doing , I said I was getting ready to go to church .. I asked him if there was anything I could do for him? He paused for a second and mentioned today is his moms birthday, if I could pray for her.! My husband is a very loving and caring human being, it is me who is the problem in our relationship. I have many faults and want to fix them.. I’m learning to be patient and to want to love my husband and show him that I love him and not be afraid of showing emotions around him.when I asked him if if there was anything I can do for him I started thinking negative, what is he going to ask ? can I do it he’s going to ask ?what if he asked for something I can’t or don’t want to do.? I pray God can help me change not only this part of me but other parts as well... I hope that the other day others come as easily and he sees a change in me but mostly I wanted to see a change in myself I have to keep reminding myself that this is about me and God and not me and my husband. I h ave read the appendix at least five times and I try to read it every morning before  I go onto the next day or I read the Dare at least  otwice before doing it to make sure that I am understanding because I’ve caught myself several times reading the dare and already thinking ahead on myself or thinking about him or something else. I’m  learning and hopefully it’ll come easy and it all goes smoothly and regardless of what the outcome is I will have found Christ.I will have found him and will continue to let him be a part of my life. 

  • Welcome! I am glad God brought you here with the Love Dare. It sounds like you are off on the right foot, Keep it up focus on your walk with the Lord.

    I look forward to praying for you in your endeavors.

  • Is this your first time through the dares? Just so you know things may get worse before they get better, if his happens don't worry, Get into the Word and start reading daily, find a good devotional and commit to doing it along with everything else. The Believers Daily Renewal is a great devotional jest get the one that is 1986 or older.

  • Don't worry God is in control. You will hear this a lot "Be Still" it is a small part of a verse in the bible "be still and know that I am God" you will want to make your husband see changes in you. Don't God has that part under control. Your husband will be used as a tool to mold you into what God wants you to be, if you are willing and yield your will to Him and surrender your hopes and dreams, He is faithful to complete the work in you that He has started. If you are walking with God and seeking him with your whole heart, you will find the peace to endure this trial and God will honor you. He will be working on your husband.

  • Welcome.  Much of this you  already know but here goes...

    this is a journey between you and Christ, not you and him.  he will be used as a tool to mold you.  Do a dare a day, no more, no less.  do the dares as they are intended to be done, without changing them.  Have no expectations of him when you do the dares.  do not read ahead  in the book, other than the appendix that you have read.  Pay attention to the part about leading the heart.

  • That's great your husband is very open to prayer.  Its great you did a dare that you were very nervous to do.  Those dares that are the hardest are the dares that offer the most growth in you and open the door more fully for Christ to work in your husband.  

  • after I left church I sent my husband a text message " happy birthday to our mom, today there's a celebration in heaven.  I prayed for her, I prayed for her to watch you and guide your heart" he replied Thank you, your sweet.! it made me happy, but I doubted myself in sending this to him. but then I thought well I did ask him if there was anything he needed, I should tell him that I did what he asked him if there was anything he needed. I wanted him to know that he can trust me. I miss him so much

  • Josh, yes it is my first time. I watch fireproof years ago, I  watched it again a few days ago. My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married going in two in September :-(. This is my first marriage and third relationship. I never saw marriage this way until a week ago when my husband move out, I was debistated

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