Collaborate without boundaries

Christmas 2017

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It is easy not to say anything negative when your partner won't even speak to you. I have sent him text messages and facebook posts daily just to say good morning or that I love him. We are both too stubborn for our own good, he blocked me from his account last night. I suppose what I need to learn from day one is the not saying anything part, to give him some space and time to deal with his emotions. So today, I am leaving our relationship in God's capable hands, I'm not taking it back to try to fix things myself because I know that only He can.

  • Welcome,  Yes, do a dare a day, no more,no less.  So that he has space.  and this also keeps you from trying to control things vs trusting Christ.

    This is a journey between you and Christ, not you and him.  He will be used as a tool to mold you.  Have no expectations of him. Do not read ahead in the book except the appendix, especially about leading the heart.  

  • Your spouse needs space. And needs to see changes in you due to your actions. There is nothing you can SAY that will change their mind. If you are going to do this you must be committed to it and as a result you will change as you grow in Christ. It will get harder and you may face persecution but Christ is the only way. He is the only possible way to be truly happy. You will discover this and your spouse will discover this at some point in their lives. Do what the dares say and don't do any more than that. Your spouse doesn't want to hear what you have to say. They need to SEE change. Good luck and welcome to our little group.

    God bless!!! and Merry Christmas!!!

    "But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."

    Isaiah 40:31

  • From experience, I know this is hard!  I have battled thinking I need to do something to help God show my husband I love him.  Time and time again he has let me know he wants nothing to do with me and yet I kept on sending him cards, letters, texts.  This past week, I got a letter back, "return to sender" in my husband's handwriting.  It was like God saying, "Linda.  Do you get it now?  Leave this alone and let Me do what I do best; making the impossible possible, with no help from you."  I have a thick head sometimes and such a manipulative personality...always wanting to manipulate or control a situation to make it bend to my desire and choices.  From someone who has to learn everything the hard way, let me advise you if you believe God has told you to take your hands off that situation, do it.  You will save yourself a lot of heartache and nights of staying up crying til you can't breathe and your head aches.

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