Well today would be about my 5th counseling session by myself, but between the Dr. asking to speak with her to help me and my suggesting that she go instead if she would like, AND GOD.  It looks like I am going to meet her at the session, introduce her, and let her stay have the session.  He suggested that we decide what the session would accomplish and I said my goal was easy, to learn about her and become a better husband, but she pointed out that the reason she was going was that the Dr had questions about her to help me not a group marriage counseling session (sllly me got over excited and forgot the point), but it is a start and at least she cares or is curious enough to go.