She has probably told me that I expec to much but very few times.  In my wordly way I tried to be a good husband rarely saying no (but apparently only to the things she felt important) helping out, cooking, cleaning on my own (not enough) and generally making things easier for her.  I truthfully spent too much time on things I felt would help instead of focusing on the other things which were probably more important.

I will tell her that I want to seek to understand her and she has my unconditional love.