I have already confessed to her the wrongs that I have done, I asked her today to double check and she could not think of any others.  I am pretty sure that she has not forgiven me in Christ (possibly in an earthly way) based on the way she speaks to me now and the letter she wrote.  Since we are not talking about her at all I really don't know whether she understands the things that I have seen and come to understand about her that were things that are outside of GODS will.  I have forgiven her truly (I feel sorrow for her about these faults) and I know that since she tries to follow GOD he will help her, even if she doesn't want to admit the things now.  I think an important part in this process is also forgiving yourself once you have admitted and understand your mistakes.