The day started out rude. She wasn't very nice to me but I did my best to be pleasant. I asked her to please speak more kindly. She responded "why? you're not." So no matter what my opinion is she believes I am rude. We both did our part to get the kids going and then off to work.
I returned home to see the beauty bark had been delivered so I got started right away with spreading it out. Fast forward to later in the evening I asked her if she thought I was rude to her. Of course she said "yes." So we discussed it and I promised her I would not be rude but that I too felt she was rude to me. I reminded her that I love her and wanted us to be happy together.
First. If she thinks you are changing, she will do and say things to get a reaction out of you. Second. Leave it at that. Don't bring it up to her. Leave her to Christ, worry about what your journey is doing within you. And to find out for sure, commit th question to prayer.