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Dare 14

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Attempted Dare 12. Dare 13 was easy I'll prepare for our first conversations. Dare 14, no contact so I can't do this one outside of prayer.

This feels daunting, I have very little hope for communication outside of our weekly single email about visits with the kids. That said, my mother spoke with a friend of the family that lives on the road that my wife is living on, she saw my wife and girls out for a walk and said to my wife "I am praying for Josh, You and Reconciliation" I have known that the tides have turned from it being about me, to it being about her decision to leave and how she did it. that nought I was having a very emotional time of prayer and noticed that I was angry at God, so I repented of that and went to bed, as I was trying to sleep the Lord showed me that it's not just that the tides have turned but that every waking moment for my wife every time she sees a friend or neighbor, goes to church she is confronted by people that are praying for Reconciliation of our marriage. The Holy Spirit is putting pressure on her from every angle. that was the first night I slept 7hrs striaght through, I usually wake 2-3 times a night at best. God is in control and I am in his hand.

I have started focusing on my relationship with my girls, I love the arts drawing, calligraphy, carving, blacksmithing, though not very good at any of them. I decided to write something for them based on thier names:


Rosalie Anna

Your name means =Rose of Grace= your name means more than meets the eye. It draws our attention to the gospel of Jesus, we are called by him to obey this gospel and believe he was sent to saver our souls by his death on the cross, in doing so, we become a seed waiting to bloom in his perfect day when the Son rises to his throne.

You are God's beautiful Rose of His Grace.


Elena Joy

Your name means =Shining Light of Joy= God's shining light is Jesus. He came to bring light to the world to dispel the darkness of man's sin to shine forth his glory in a Christ filled life. God's light shines through the dark and exposes sin and justifies the rightous.

You are a Shining Light of God's Glory to this dark world.


Nina Soler

Your name means =Dreamer of Place= we dream of a place to call home, when Jesus left to return to heaven, he said, "I go to prepare a place for you" through the years people have tried to imagine what that place looks loke. Abraham journey through the wilderness looking for a place whose "builder and maker was God"

You are a Dreamer of that Place.

I am praying that the Lord will give me favor with my girls, they have been poisoned against me with the lies that my wife and her father believe. God is faithful and I am safe and in good company.

  • Dare 14.  Why just pray upon it?  Could you not have still neglected something you may have wanted to do (such as watch TV or play on the computer for example) and done something she likes to do (put a puzzle together, plant flowers or anything she would like to do)?  Even if she will never know or see what you neglected or did, it would have gotten you in the practice of putting her first if she comes back.  And would have opened you up even more so to the impact the dare could have had.

  • Dare 14.  Why just pray upon it?  Could you not have still neglected something you may have wanted to do (such as watch TV or play on the computer for example) and done something she likes to do (put a puzzle together, plant flowers or anything she would like to do)?  Even if she will never know or see what you neglected or did, it would have gotten you in the practice of putting her first if she comes back.  And would have opened you up even more so to the impact the dare could have had.

  • Dare 12, did you talk or contact her?  

    The not sleeping well, is a sign you are putting her or the marriage ahead of God and not trusting Him completely.  And as you saw, once you saw God at work, you put your trust in Him higher than your fear of what's going to happen to the marriage and your slept well.  

  • Doing the name thing and sharing Christ is good.  Your wife, though, will probably see that as you throwing God in her face.  So, if she uses this against you for a short time, do not fear.  

  • Next time you feel a bit of despair or frustration or anxiety, look at how God gave the peace that led to a good night's sleep.  And get back to that.  

  • You are Right I didn't think of that she would have appreciated my not being on my phone all day. I'll keep that in mind. She probably won't use it as against me but she will look at it as me trying to manipulate the situation to my favor. She is a believer and her dad is a leader the church. He is the one that would be a try to use it against me.

  • I felt angry at God for a while. But when you think about it we all deserve much worse that what we are getting, Being thankful for what we do have is time better spent. God loves us no matter what we do or think.

    I find out here and there that people are praying for my family also. I'm convinced that there is enough prayer going on to help my family. It's just up to my wife to accept God's grace. It's a great feeling to hear someone you didn't expect to tell you they are praying for you and/or your spouse.

    You be good to those girls and talk nice about their mother and there is no lie in the world that will turn them away from you. I will tell you from my experience that our two oldest children have completely forsaken their mother because they see the lies with their own eyes and they see me getting mentally and financially abused. They do not like it at all. Even though my wife continues to lie these two children see through it like a crystal clear piece of glass. Our next two kids down are adopted and they only care about themselves so they go where the money goes but they know the truth and someday they will face it. Then the youngest two are being forced to live with my wife against their will. The 10 year old knows and sees the truth like the two oldest and she desperately wants to be with me and away from her mother. (She tells me more lies weekly that my wife and her parents say about me but it is completely backfiring on them because it is angering her to the point that she talks very bad about them to me.) The youngest is five and she loves me and her mother but she does tell me that she wants to live with me when this is "fixed." Kids are way smarter than people think and they see who is righteous and who is not. Unfortunately man's court system does not care about morals and will force the children into situations they do not need to be in. Josh, you be the better person. Love those girls and teach them unconditional love, even for their mother. They need to love their mother even when she is completely wrong. They may be the ones to lead her where God wants her.

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