Collaborate without boundaries

Discouraged

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Today is day 23. I have done the dares as best I can with no contact. He will not answer texts and will not answer the phone. He is adamant he will not stay married. On top of that, my lawyer says that his preoccupation with his hobbies and failure to supervise his kids combined with their bad behavior, drug use aND guns in the house may need to be reported. I know that God hears and answers prayer, but I also know that God will not go against our free will. I am afraid for what the impact of his choices will be on him.

I don't know what else I can do, as most of the dares I was doing long before I got to them. I know that God is molding me, but I can't help but mourn the thought of spending the rest of my life alone, and the possibility I thought existed in my marriage.

  • Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all thy heart, lean not to thy own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths."

    Stay strong. It's hard not to feel discouraged. That was me on yesterday. Marriage is difficult at times, but during this storm God is with you, carrying you, and will not leave you. He hears your cries and pleas. Continue to be faithful to Him and watch Him bless your marriage. God is all powerful and sees all and hears all. Be encouraged today. God has already worked the situation out, He just wants to know that you trust Him to do so.

    Blessings to you.

  • My husband is an ordained pastor who has told everyone he refuses to stay married because I will not allow his kid's to destroy our home and disrespect me. He has told his pastor, his lawyer, and my pastor that there was no chance of reconciliation. I would like to think that God would bring him around, as I don't think He gives us an impossible task, but then I had to divorce my first husband because after years of prayer and counciling, he was hitting on women at my kids little league games. God won't take away our personal will. Unfortunately, my husand doesn't care what I do if I don't condone the sin of his kids.

    I will continue to pray for him.

  • I am afraid that he will try to harm me in some way, such as accusing me of harassment, if I continue to try to contact him right now. He has recently tried to make trouble for me at the new church I started attending after the separation. It just hurts that someone who claims to be a godly man treats marriage with such contempt.

  • He may be so adamant that the marriage will not work out.  And he does have free will that God will not take away.  But if God can turn Saul into Paul, He can certainly inflict enough pain on your husband to come around to His will.

    Let Christ fill all the voids you feel in your life.  He will not disappoint.  And for those that love Him, He will turn everything, even the things we at first despair, to good things for us.

    If you are talking any form of physical harm,then do what you need to do to be safe.  

    At the new church, be the best you you can be, and your testimony will show the others you are not the person your husband is trying to say you are.

  • Thank you Tim. I need to be concerned about false legal issues from my husband and physical danger from my stepson, both of which have happened before.

    My husband had gone to my pastor and told him he would make trouble for him if I was allowed to continue to lead the bible study I was leading, as my husand worked for churches in that denomination. My pastor stood by me, but the ugliness is awful.

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