114—Love always Celebrates Godliness
“Find a specific, recent example when
your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way.
Verbally commend them for this at some point today.”
I so appreciate the insight
and accountability given by, what I consider, dear friends through this
The insight—now is my test and my husband is
still in his own car on this road we are on.
I reread Sean’s
driving illustration. Different points are jumping out at me now more than before
as my marriage is progressing forward. We are now “side by side” (living
together again), but my husband has still not made the decision to get the
driver’s ed teacher (Christ) in his car, so how can he be expected to drive
(love) as well as me? I was reminded this is a different kind of driving. I can
experience it because I have made that choice. So, I MUST continue to allow day
one to stick with me…BE PATIENT.
The TEST—standing firm
in what God has been preparing me for—the NOW. Based on what I have learned, in
time I will see, that by following all the laws, no road rage, always giving
the right away—my husband WILL see the change in me. He will WANT it as well.
It will then be my job to drive him to the DMV and get that driver’s ed teacher in
his car too. It is only at that time we will both be in the same car, instead
of at best side by side…
The accountability—I went into fix it mode and tried
taking back control of the situation. I’ve mentioned recently this seems to be
a bit more challenging now that we are in each other’s presence a heck of a lot
more than we ever have been these last few months. Staying out of His way is a
lot easier when your spouse is not right in front of you. A verse that spoke to
me this morning, “Wait on the Lord. Be of good courage and He will strengthen
your heart.” (Psalm 27:14).
With that said I have
made it a point to really focus on just that—waiting on Him and getting the
heck out of His way. I will be of good courage—follow all the laws, have no road
rage, and always give the right away in order to lead by example. He will
strengthen my heart (as He always has) while I am patient for the time we are
in the same car.
I prayed throughout the
day for my eyes to be open to the what and when of today’s dare. Nothing hit me
until I got home this evening. He had dinner waiting for me when I walked
through the door. I thanked him for taking the time to prepare a meal despite
the long day I know he had in court (for work) on what was supposed to be a day
Once dinner was over
we did the dishes together then he asked if he could play video games. Without
hesitation, I said yes. I was at peace with it tonight—a lot different feeling
than last night. It actually provided some time of solitude in His
presence as I am still working through the intense change that is taking place
even beyond just the dynamics of my husband and I.
Your daily testimony will be the drivers ed.... Remember there is a reason Christ chose you first for this journey...
Your husband sacrificed for you, pretty large way to display Christian character.
He also asked if he could play video games.....giving in to your preferences and desires. Maybe not the way you and I would do it, but hes getting there.
Taking control could be a result of having impatience........
The concept is always easier than the reality. You can grasp it, but when it is reality, and you must walk it all day, everyday, that is the ticket to refinement, refinement refinement.
And, "dare" I say...I am the most patient of all those on this board (in reference to jsond's comment) WAHAHAHAHAHHAHHA. Miracles happen ;)