Day 77—Love still Agrees in Prayer
“Ask your spouse if you can begin praying
together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it's in the
morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime. Use this time to commit your
concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don't forget to thank
Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your spouse refuses to do
this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.”
“When you were joined together as a husband and
wife, God gave you a wedding gift—a permanent prayer partner for life. It
should become your automatic reflex action when you don’t know what else to do.
Shared prayer is a key ingredient in marital longevity. The unity that grows
between a man and woman who regularly pray together forms an intense and powerful
Although my husband’s heart is not softened
towards Christ yet, a couple stories were shared with me of men that were in
such a place themselves, but when turned themselves to God, they became the
spiritual leader of their household astonishing their wives. I remind myself
NOTHING is impossible with Christ. “Spiritual leader” seems like such a foreign
characteristic to describe my husband with and feels like it is a very distant occurrence
for him, but I have seen the power of prayer just as this chapter talks about.
I am not giving up on him to reach salvation and perhaps one day become the
spiritual leader of our household.
I referred quite a bit to ‘living in the moment’
in my entry yesterday. I woke this morning praying for God’s strength to
continue this. He knows it is a battle I will have to fight every day and I
know He will give me tests to ensure I fight this battle armed with His
Out of the blue, as I was getting ready to go
running this morning, He told me that I was to invite my husband over for
dinner. This was not in my plans for the evening as I was contemplating going
to evening church with my Dad depending on how far we got with some work on the
house. I didn’t question it though. Once I got back from running I called my
husband to ask if he wanted to come over tonight for dinner, which he accepted.
After my Dad so kindly helped me with finishing
up more in progress projects around the house, my husband came over for dinner.
Nothing extravagant. I just made tacos. When we were done with dinner I showed
him what got done today. I will often find him, whenever he comes over, just
staring around the house then exclaiming how great everything looks. He then
tells me he is imagining everything moved back in. I love this! I tell him,
this is our “new beginnings.” It truly is. The house looks completely different
than when he moved out. I know this was all in God’s plan.
Once done showing him the house, I put in a
movie for us to watch. As I was putting it in the DVD player, he asked, “What
is this?” When I looked at what he was looking at, I realized he was looking at
my notes from last week’s church service, which was scribbled on the church’s
program. I had them on my Bible, so I could input them into a journal. I told
him what they were. He then asked if this was a new church I was going to since
he didn’t recognize the name. I told him, yes, that I went by myself last week
to check it out and really liked it. He asked where it was and I also told him
that it is a bit smaller than the one I was going to (the one he did not like
because it was too big). The conversation ended there. Thinking back I wonder
if I should have asked if he wanted to come with me…although I think God would
have pressed that upon me if He did. No doubt, I would in a heartbeat if He
wanted me to. Perhaps this was another seed to be planted in my husband and
would not have happened if I had not invited him over for dinner…
We ended the night just watching a movie. It was another nice evening spent together. I feel like such a smitten teenager
when we say our goodbyes for the night. I don’t want him to leave, but this
allows for things to be taken slow. In God’s time, I know him moving back in
will all work out. Until then, I am thankful for the time we do get to spend
It is also a key to oneness. The oneness that God intended for marriage.