Day 25—Love Forgives
you haven't forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go.
Just as we ask Jesus to "forgive us our debts" each day, we must ask
Him to help us "forgive our debtors" each day as well.
Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long.
Say from your heart, "I choose to forgive."
I believe I have forgiven my husband for his affair, but I
need to make that known to him. I do not hold anger, bitterness, or vindictiveness
towards him. It is mainly just heartache that will heal in time with God. Only
God could give me that strength during a time such as this. Often times I don’t
even recognize who I am anymore because of how different I would have reacted a
month ago. This chapter is important to understand especially if it is God’s
plan for our marriage to be restored. “Forgiveness doesn’t absolve anyone of blame. It doesn’t clear their record with God. It just clears you of having to worry about
how to punish them. When you forgive
another person, you’re not turning them loose.
You’re just turning them over to God, who can be counted on to deal with
them His way…It’s about freedom. It’s
about letting go.” I sometimes wonder, why can’t my husband act that same way
towards me regarding my hurtful actions or even feel remorse for what he did—two
wrongs do not make a right nor does “I want a divorce” mean we aren’t married
anymore so it is okay to have an affair. These are thoughts I continually have
to give to God in order to completely forgive. I am also aware I will have to
constantly find forgiveness for my husband because there will more than likely
be things that come up in the future that will remind me of his actions that I
will have to give to God.
Weird, that I am
so easily able to forgive my husband, but not myself. I pray after tomorrow I
will feel a lot of weight be lifted despite how ugly it may get. It is another
storm that I know God has been preparing me for as I have been praying A LOT about
His guidance in timing for this one. It is now time for me to let my own guilt
and shame go!
This is where you need to focus. Christ does forgive you, so there is no reason for these feelings and thoughts. You have been bought for a price, that price is Chirsts blood on the cross. Leave these burdens with Him!