my status is now "divorced" and it's weird to realize that I'm here (at this point in my life) the divorce decree was granted a few weeks ago & we are ironing out the last details I honestly never thought I'd be a 'divorcee'...

I just received notice that he filed for divorce on July 12. He didn't have the balls to tell me - he let the lawyer's letter do the talking. I'm glad he finally did 'something' and I'm ready to move on.

well, this time I completed the Dare! woo-hoo! I can tell you that this spiritual journey with the Love Dare has made me such a better person. These 40 days have done more for me than a yr w/ my counselor!! Last night, I asked my husband if we could discuss...

This is essentially my last Dare and it was a doozy. I didn't do the Day 38 (meeting his desires) since I've been trying to do that for over two years. He also tells me that right now, he has "no dreams" so that has a negative impact...

Well, things didn't work out with praying together. I have been saying prayers w/ him (actually, it's been me saying a prayer w/ him standing there silently), generally for his safety, as he leaves. I told myself that this time, I was not going...

Well, today didn't work out too well but at least I tried. My husband ended up going to the picnic at his father's house. At one point, the 3 of us were in the kitchen (w/ my kids out of earshot). I said I had something to say to both of them...

Technically today is Day 35, but I had to switch Days 35 & 36. Today I kinda accomplished Day 36. Surprisingly, my husband went to church with me & the kids today. It's a different church & very different from what I've gone to for...

For people keeping track, yes, I did Day 32. However, since my husband is still having sex with his married mistress, there was no way WE were going to have sex - 'nuff said. I was able to get him to spend the night & we spent a few minutes cuddling...

I decided to 'confess' 2 things: being attracted to another man last yr & looking at other men as 'husband material' it turns out that I already told him about the other man last yr (therefore, he wasn't 'moved' by my info...

Wow - Day 30... this is about where I stopped when I attempted the Love Dare a few months ago... This Dare was a struggle because the areas that need improvement (communication, fidelity, trust, etc.) are not things that *I* can fix alone. However, after...

Let me start by saying that I attempted the Dare for Day 28 (fulfilling a need) but he ignored me all day; he specifically did not return my phone calls. When I told him today that I wished he had called me back because I had an idea, he just shrugged...

Wow - I just completed this Dare! He hadn't answered my earlier phone call, so I wasn't sure if we'd be able to talk on the phone tonight. I had decided that I wanted to ask him about my expectations over the phone, but as the evening went...

Day 26 centered around asking for forgiveness from God and your spouse. I struggled with this one but decided in the end to ask my husband for forgiveness for not taking action when I noticed we were having problems. I admitted that I took the lazy way...

Oddly enough, these 2 days have been challenging, but not for the same reasons as previous Dares. For Day 24, you were to remove lust & Day 25 calls for forgiveness. At this time, there is nothing that I lust for (material or immaterial). I didn't...

This Dare was easy in the sense that I knew exactly what I needed to continue doing: stop checking the cell phone records & confirming for myself that he's continuing to see & speak with his married mistress! For the past 6 months (since he...

Today was interesting. In recent times, saying "I love you" has been hard. I wondered how I would do it. When I completed this Dare a few months ago, I wrote on a card the exact words from the Love Dare book (I love you even if you don't...

Today is actually the morning of Day 21 and I am so thankful that it falls on a day when I'm going to church! The last time I did the Love Dare, Day 19 stopped me - I really needed to 'check my motives' as the movie says! And my motives were...

The days seem so busy but I am so proud to be ON TRACK with the Dares! The last time I did this, I would postpone the Dares if I didn't see him or other things came up. This time, everything is working out. Day 16 (praying for your spouse) was so...

This was a surprise! In the past, an opportunity to 'willingly give in to a disagreement' was pretty rare. Tonight, an opportunity presented itself & the Day 12 Dare was fresh on my mind (because today is Day 15). My husband is ill & I...

I distinctly remember this Dare from a few months ago. However, I pretended to not remember & I asked my husband to refresh my memory for me. I said that I remembered he didn't like me to be sarcastic. He couldn't remember the other things...

Day 10: This was challenging since I had surgery today. However, in my physically impaired state, I asked my husband if I could rub his back w/ my foot (he said OK). I haven't given him a backrub in a long time; I'm certainly aware that he's...

Today was the day to think about how I greet my husband. Over the past several weeks, we have very limited physical contact (we barely speak some days when I come home & he leaves). Today, when I arrived home, he was sitting down with our older son...

I finally did my 2 lists. When I did this Dare previously, I on his behavior before his affair. However, this time, I decided to be 'true' to the Love Dare and do it based on his current behavior. This time, the 'positive' list was very...

I completed this Dare but I'm not sure that I understand it 100%. I have plenty of free time and I can certainly see where I should have sacrificed some of my "me time" when my husband was still at home. I distinctly remember telling him...

While I haven't completed Day 7 (positive & negative characteristics), I had the opportunity to complete Day 8. Since this is my 2nd time, I knew what was coming. I actually thought about 'cheating' and using the list I created when I...