This is essentially my last Dare and it was a doozy.
I didn't do the Day 38 (meeting his desires) since I've been trying to do that for over two years. He also tells me that right now, he has "no dreams" so that has a negative impact, too.
Today is Day 39 and I have my letter ready. I will put it in an envelope & give it to him to read tonight. I will not expect him to read it in front of me. I am hoping for him to let me know, in some way, that he's read it. I'm guessing that he will send me a generic text saying 'thanks for the letter.'
The Letter was so hard to write because I feel that my husband has given up on our marriage but he doesn't have the balls to act on anything. I felt so vulnerable when writing the letter and I erred on the side of saying less.
I may complete Day 40 (renewal of vows) but I will not give them to him. I may wait until we actually plan to do it. I tell myself to 'prepare for rain' ("Facing the Giants") and I thank God every day for giving me the strength to do what He wants me to do.
update: I left the letter in an envelope taped to the TV. This way, he would see it while I was at the gym & could read it when I wasn't around. I was so nervous when I came home (because I was expecting an apathetic response)! After I was home for about 10 minutes, he grabbed my chin, looked me in the eye & thanked me for the letter. I was pleasantly surprised by his sincerity. A few minutes later, he told me he was getting ready to leave. I then told him that I don't anticipate writing another letter like that any time soon. He again thanked me for the letter.
my Love Dare is over and I'm so happy that I finished it! I plan to relax for a few days but I have already made so many Dares part of my daily life. I'll write here in a day or two.
I really had a hard time doing day 38, 39, 40. So I didn't at this time. I talked with my husband about doing the love dare with me and he agreed to but not really sure if he is or not. I started over and I am on day 2. He is so cold and uncaring. He couldn't believe that I had gone thru the whole 40 days. He said he didn't notice any changes. I am not going to take it personal. I notice them and thats what matter. I found myself loving me more and not taking all the blame for our marriage going bad 2 months after we got married. June 7th will be are 2 year anniversary. I am going to continue to love him and repeat the dare on my own whether he does it or not. Keep your faith and your prayers going. God is awesome and has done so many miracles.
SIGH!!!!!!! I understand the difficulty in doing this dare considering the circumstances.I know these dares can be daunting but you have to remember you are walking by faith.You have to believe that God is working behind the scenes.We are walking by faith and not by sight..Your faith has to be unshakeable like a pit bull on a mailman's leg.