47 Love believes the best
in my counseling session my counselor asked me what I loved about my
wife. I said she is a good mother, she shot that down. She kept
asking and I could not come up with anything. This made me think on
all our situations here, mine included. I have a habit of jumping
into relationships. Am I with this person because the pain that is
associated familiar? Was there anything that I did actually love or
was there indicators of pain (emotional) that attracted me. Did I
see something broken and thought that I could fix it? I was
frustrated with trying to come up with reasons I love my wife. I
wanted to just have blind faith that because I choose to love her
that is that. I have felt disconnected lately. That last
conversation really took its toll. I touched back on day 6, margin.
I decided that I am not going to answer the question on why I love my
wife right now. I am afraid that I may not have a reason. Then I
read todays dare. Does He not work wonders? Maybe this is God
working on me to be able to accept true love and give true love.
When I think of my wife and picture her in my head, I smile. Maybe I
am not able to express in words why I love her, but when I do think
of her good things roll through me. This world is better just
because she is a part of it. She is not perfect, no one is but she
is simply awesome. Which leads me to wonder how I am able to feel
this. I love Christ. He sacrificed for me. Accepts me as I am all
the while demanding to be better. Listens unconditionally and loves
me just the same. He is always there even when I am not. I am able
to feel the things I do because He has shown me that Himself. I will
pray on my lists as this day unfolds.
His timing is always perfect as you just seen with today's dare. I had a similar situation a couple of week's ago in couple's counseling. Counselor asked me what I like about my husband, well considering it is round 4 I've done it four times, however, it was fresh in my mind because that specific dare was the day before, so I started spouting off my list. The hilarious part was my husband listed two things for me and they were backhanded compliments. The "world" will ask how we could possibly love our spouses in such situations and will challenge that with the question of what do you love about them. You are right, it does not always come right away in the form of words, but the LOVE is there through Him. That you recognized. That is what is important.
Maybe you should be reading your dare first thing when you wake up in the morning?
I'm smiling because think of if you had.....there was a reason it hit you the way it did brother.
Dont be afraid.......just because your counselor is asking for a reason doesnt mean you have to give one.......Christ has no reason to love you, but He does.....He does because He said He would.......you love your wife because you said you would.....its not a good enough excuse for the world, but its good enough for us.
As both of you have said. There are reasons why I love her. The main one is because through Him I choose to love her. Lead your heart and the rest will follow.
Jason, I do read them first thing in the morning. I wake up, make my coffee, read the dare, pray on it and read the bible then watch Joyce Meyer. That is my routine. Adding margin in my life :). I had not completed a dare in about 5 days due to camping and feeling off. I was waiting on the counseling session yesterday. My counselor is great. She is a believer and that helps me a lot. Working on a lot of discipline at the moment.
Challenge for you - do NOT skip a day. I don't care how off or hard you think it may be to complete a dare, don't do it. I know you are up for challenges - you are hiking a 200+ mile trail (I think that is what you said or was it 400+?). If you can do that, I KNOW you can do a dare a day. Think about it this way, you skip a dare you are skipping a day with Christ. I know you have your reasons, but I am challenging anyways. This is all out of love my friend.
I need that advice, too, Gem. Dangit. You and jsond never miss a day! I'm a " grouper" if ya haven't noticed! Lol!
Pray more specifically on what you want to manifest. No grandiose "world peace and sweet feet.". Specific. Lord, i want discernment. Lord, i want clarity with "this" and "this". Show me.
Take and use the authority you have in Christ Jesus.
Take and use the authority you have in Christ Jesus.
You have this authority if you abide in Him and He abides in you. You are in line with His will. Ask. Receive. Be blessed.
We can do all things through Christ who gives us strength!
The reason I love my wife is because I choose to. Bottom line. Yes here beauty attracted me to her, and other things may have helped. But the bottom line is I love her unconditionally. Just as Christ showed me how to.
If anything I would have a reason to changed, then I could not love her unconditionally. Which would mean I do not have Chirsts love in me. In our 22 years of marriage we have been through every possible marriage breaking situation, but yet Christ has showed us what unconditional love is. And we CHOOSE to continue to love unconditionally...
Do not let those of the world try to change your spiritual faith.
And even though your counselor is a believer, does not mean she knows everything. Through this journey you may be a testimony to her, teach her what Gods love truly means,