Collaborate without boundaries

Love brings unity R2

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This journal was supposedly written last night

Last night, I did my exercise..run for 2 miles while the weather is still better (around 37F No snow)..while I was cooling down I saw a car parked near our apartment..it was my wife.. she was just going to drop some food at home and asked her coworker(her ride to work) to drop her to the mall. So, I offered that I will drive her instead. She refused and ofcourse I was angry..then she changed her mind she will not go to the mall instead..I continued my walk and went home..she asked me if I would still drive her to the mall..I said yes, and she doesn’t have to worry if she dont want me to go with her..I will just stay in the car and wait..i like it better than following her shop something that feels like forever..hehehe..I didn’t bring up the little argument that happened earlier coz I dont want to make it big. I just keep my mouth shut most of the time. I dont know if I did the dare right but I’m glad I kept my mouth shut and say anything I would regret after.

  • Don't get angry. You expected her to accept your offer but when she didn't you got upset. No expectations! But then it worked out for you so be thankful. I think not bringing up the argument was good but I don't think there would be anything wrong with you apologizing and saying that you reacted wrong and leave it at that.

    So in the past you bringing up something that starts an argument is your area that needs improved? If so it looks like you did an excellent job. Bite your tongue and accept that she is not perfect and neither are you.

    "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

    Proverbs 15:1

  • Bite your tongue.....A key ingredient in showing patience.  Temper your anger or your anger will greatly control all things around you.  

    Maybe, just maybe, next time you see him getting ready to take her somewhere, Say, in  a kind voice, but  not a weak voice, Do you mind if I take my wife to the mall?  This reinforces you are asking her indirectly and also verbally saying to him this is my wife.  Maybe that will give him a further hint in what he is doing is wrong.  She may get mad but that's okay.  You would be defending your marriage.

  • As Eddie mentioned, you could have said sorry I over reacted or something like that.  

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