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Love vs Lust R2

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Lust for me right now is not about sex. I haven’t even thought of that with my wife. I’m so focus on just winning her through my changes..how can I even think of that when I know my wife wouldn’t even sleep with me. Anyway, today, our kid is sick..I ended up taking care of our little one..I’m a bit tired.. she worries a lot she ain’t the one taking care of him..her reason is the kid wont go to her..I told her..think about it why? I know they will go to her if Im not at home..they have no choice..she has been always out working, shopping and meeting friends..must be one reason why the kids are close to me coz most of the time I’m aways home..

I lust for her love but if I have to wait and be patient..I will do it..I will wait and be patient with the help of my faith in GOD..

  • I am not so sure you can lust for  your wife's love, for desiring her love is not  wrong.  Do you lust for more money, a new or different place to live, a vacation?  don't answer but consider things  like this.

    Pointing out  why the kids don't go to her may not be the best time to do that.  

    Continue having no expectations, but that  also means have  no expectations that she won't sleep with you.  Yes,  you are probably right she isn't willing to now, but you never  know when God  may move in her and make her  want to be  physically close to you.

  • I am in a similar situation. My wife doesn't want to touch me and doesn't want me to touch her. And I dream all the time about having sex with her. Whenever I start to look at another woman I immediately take my mind to the bedroom with my wife. It's not lust to desire your wife.

    "Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love."

    Proverbs 5:18-19

    Same thing with the kids. My kids avoid my wife as much as they can. Like you, I told her.... think about why? I really think that was the wrong thing to say though. We should always be positive, especially about our spouse. We shouldn't say things like that to her. We should listen to her and think about our response. I really don't know what the best thing to say is. I do tell our children that mommy is just going through a difficult time and she need sour prayers- which still may be negative because it makes her look like the bad guy but this is a very difficult situation. It may be best to not say anything and just listen.

    " Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger."

    James 1:19

  • Hey Eddie,

    Yeah, me too..I’m still dreaming of my wife..but I could wait..about the kids not going to her..I wish I didn’t say it..I just realized it that I was wrong to say it but I already said it..can’t take it back..I am beginning to learn to listen to her more..slow process but I will get there..I will take my time processing my changes through the help of GOD.

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