During our walk I tried talking to hubby about if he felt I had too many expectations from him and he said no. I had been thinking and praying about it the thing that came to mind for me was expecting hubby to think like me, have my beliefs, act like me, etc. I shared this with him and we talked about it some. He touched that it seemed more about morals then expectations. I prayed some more about how to incorporate the last part of the dare and I brought the topic up again with him. He once again said it was more about morals because I have high morals. That irritates me and then I have to ask what that means and I fire off with the questions. Is not committing adultery having high morals? NO. Is not acting like a single man and pretending to be other women's boyfriends and lovers having high morals? UH No. But I disagree with that. UGH so here is where the argument starts. He thinks I think he is a womanizer and goes online to befriend women so he can have sex with them. NO I do not think that. I think that you have no boundaries and that you talk to women inappropriately. You have no right to act like their boyfriend or lover or like you are a single man. OK he agrees with that. It's just so frustrating! He talked about how he has customers who are friendly and call him sweetie and honey and whatever. I stress the issue I have is the texts, facebook messages, emails and other things I have seen him write to other women that is clearly NOT OK and disrespectful to me as his wife. We both are not on the same page I don't think about this topic. I tried again to stress that I am concerned about his interactions with other women based on all the stuff he has shown me in the past. He says that was before and he's not doing that anymore. I am thinking to myself that how can he change this on his own. I have also said this to him that I only think GOD can change us. So that was my attempt at the dare. Didn't go quite how I wanted it to.
Gotta give it up to Him and not go to the past like that. We don't want our spouses to be stuck in the past therefore we cannot either. Moving forward is learning from what took place at that time and allowing Christ to work on hubby's heart regarding it...and yours too. <3. Express your frustrations to Christ and then let Him take care of the rest.
The bottom line is that your husband needs to fill voids with things this world offers. He really has no idea what happiness is, what Chirsts love really is. So he follows his heart on the lusts of this world.
Your testimony will change that. It will show him Chirsts unfailing love. Remember Christ is preparing you in this journey..l.
Jenn. Yeah I know but I had to reference the past to explain my point to him. I should have just not even gone there period. I should have left it with what I said earlier in the day and not push it.
Sean. You are absolutely right. He doesn't have Christ in his life so he will continue to struggle. Thanks for the reminder about what Christ is doing. Scary but amazing.