I shared with him that it's important for me to hear his opinion about things from little decisions to big decisions. I told him I know I have not done this in the past but I realized before and now again that it's important and will be doing it more. He said this was something new so he didn't know he was used to whatever. He wasn't able to clarify on what that meant. I think he was probably used to me before excluding him. I had said this to him before so I don't think I have excluded him since the last time I did this dare so I did not apologize but instead acknowledged I had done this in the past and have been working on including him in everything. I shared with him that I felt it was important because it adds to our oneness and I hope that we would both be able to do this because what I do affects him and what he does affects me. He was puzzled about the oneness and what that meant and I tried my best to explain that to him. He made a good point that we are both afraid or don't trust the other because of ways we have hurt each other.
That is a ruse... Afraid? Don't trust... You are still married you are still together. So you both are not too afraid and must trust enough. Or it is just a marriage of "whatever"?
Still living by the worlds standards. Not Christs.
Perhaps I didn't explain it right. He asked about what ONENESS meant and was it that everything he does he would have to consider my feelings and not do it. He said then I would use that as a way to control me or manipulate things. Cuz he has felt I have done that before. I told him that is NOT what Oneness means. He said he's afraid I will do that because I have before. Just like I am afraid he will hurt me or whatever else he has done before and that trust was destroyed.
Oh he communicates with the word whatever often so I will usually have to repeat myself a few times to try to pull out of him what he means. Just poor communication.
I get that yes this is about worldly standards and not Christs which has been the whole problem to begin with.