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Day 5 - Done

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Well this one caught me by surprise.

While reading what the dare was I thought to myself that it would be a piece of cake. Well it wasn't. I didn't know how to initiate the question at 1st but luckily by the grace of God an opportunity arose that gave me a chance to ask her. At 1st she was very hesitant on telling me as she said it would just bring up the past. I told her that I just need plain and simple explanations and there is no reason to bring up any instances where it occurred etc.

She then quite reluctantly told me what it was. All I can say is that they are 3 things that I have already started working on.

I have also told her that I forgive her for all the wrong that she has done to me and that as far as I am concerned none of them ever happened as I am not holding any records of wrong (not sure if that was still a dare to come or not) and that I have made peace with God and I am now trying to grow with Him more and more everyday.

She still keeps throwing those little jabs of us not ever being able to get together again etc but as far as I am concerned I am now doing the dares to get closer to God. If He wills it it will happen so if it happens it will be a bonus, if it doesn't it will be a life lesson that I will keep and learn out of.

God bless you all.

  • as you noticed you are already working on the things she brought up, you will notice the dares will correct a lot of the faults your flesh has.  

    If telling her you forgave her is a dare to come in the days ahead, still do that dare.  

    As she sees the changes, she may up the strength and  frequency of the jabs for  a period  of  time.  But, as you pointed out doing the dares to grow in Christ will be what can bring you joy even while she is jabbing.  

  • Good outlook. God says His grace is all you (we) need. It would be a bonus to have our spouse back to worship with us though.

    I have to ask these questions again today. The first round I didn't get an answer so you're doing better than me. I had to come up with three things I thought she would say and I worked on them. I can say that now, 40 days later, I have corrected those. I'll see what she says later today.

    If it's anything like my experience, once you show her that one of her "jabs" makes no sense she will come up with another one. You just have to be prepared for it. For example- my wife semi-moved out of the house a few months ago saying she was afraid I would "kill" her. (seriously) Then about three weeks ago she moved back in saying it was because she needed to make sure the kids got on the bus in the mornings. (There was no problem with the kids- I had been handling that just fine.) The whole time I was wondering, if she's afraid I'm going to "kill" her, why would she come back. Then our marriage therapist (who only I see) suggested it was because her attorney advised her to. So basically her thought that I would "kill" her has been proven wrong and now she has to come up with another excuse to continue. Eventually she will run out of excuses. I pray that she seeks professional help at some point. I think we all need to see a therapist through this. Individual and marriage.

    "Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

    Matthew 11:29-30

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