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  • February 5, 2019

    Well, Nick (15) had court yesterday. His follow-up for truancy since custody was awarded to me on 12/27/18. We got there a little bit early and I was asked to come speak to the school board worker, social worker and guardian ad litem. They asked me how...
  • February 4, 2019

    Many many times I have said I am going to focus on the good and stop concentrating on the bad. It's hard. I keep going back to the bad. Sunday's sermon in church was how satan influences us in so many ways. He uses people and they don't even...
  • February 2, 2019

    What is going on? I'm trying so hard to do the right thing but things just seem to keep getting worse. Things get worse before they get better but how worse? This morning I read a devotional that talked about irretrievable relationships. They aren't...
  • January 31, 2019

    This just happened on Facebook and I can't even describe how upset I am. ????? I'm lost. I don't want to deal with this hostility. I honestly don't care if I am alive or dead tomorrow. What is happening to this world that makes people...
  • January 29, 2019

    At some point you just become numb to all of this. I really can't imagine divorce going any worse than this. I received a call from my attorney a few minutes ago and I guess my ex called him about the online banking thing from a few days ago. She...
  • January 26, 2018

    Some good. Some bad. Yesterday I was logging into my online banking to do my February budget and it said my user ID was invalid. It's for the mortgage and credit card I am still on seven months after divorce, but I like to keep track of them to make...
  • January 24, 2019

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    Well the last week has been somewhat horrible. I just can't get past this. There has been no contact with Amber for almost three months. I refuse to talk to her still because she's with the guy she cheated on me with. Last weekend she pulled the...
  • January 16, 2019

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    I continue to pray for my ex. What God will do is beyond me. The things I hear are so disheartening. Becca (16) told me her mother said she's still friends with me on Facebook because she's trying to be nice. I told Becca that if she was nice...
  • January 14, 2019

    Becca (16) told me she wanted to stay at Amber’s house Saturday night (her mother) because she had a few friends that wanted to hang out with and there wasn't enough room at my house. It made sense but I immediately suspected something was up...
  • January 11, 2019

    Something I don't understand: My ex hates me sure, I get it. She blames me for everything. Even makes up things about me. I can deal with it because I know the truth and I'm a mature adult. What I don't get is this: 1) When our eighteen year...
  • January 10, 2019

    I met with Nick's (15) teachers yesterday. They all updated me on where he is in their classes. They asked me why I let him miss so much school last semester and I told them I haven't seen the kid much in the last six months because I've been...
  • January 8, 2019

    How are things? Caleb (18) has a 4.25 in school. Seems like things don't bother him. But, he rarely speaks with his mother. They only communicate when he needs something. I don't think that is good for either of them but she made a choice to walk...
  • January 7, 2019

    This weekend couldn't have went any worse if it were a nightmare. My two youngest went back to their mother for a week so I already miss them. Then Becca (16) asked me if she could spend the night at a boys house. I said NO! She argued for a while...
  • January 3, 2019

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    I need massive prayers today! I am meeting with my attorney later today. It's been six months since she forced divorce on me and I have been struggling emotionally, of course, but also financially because: The court awarded her the adoption subsidy...
  • January 2, 2019

    I hope this site doesn't end up crashing. I've been having terrible trouble with it lately. So.... divorced Christmas is not fun. I have been drained emotionally and financially. I didn't have a Christmas tree. I didn't get my kids anything...
  • December 31, 2018

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    I still feel like there will never be an end to this. I know I am partially doing this to myself because I can't let go of the pain she caused me. There are so many negative aspects of divorce. I see why God hates divorce. Financially, I can't...
  • December 28, 2018

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    I don't know how things typically work out in these situations but I don't think mine is typical. This just gets more insane every day. I got custody of Nick (15) yesterday after court. About one year ago Caleb (18) told his mother that he hopes...
  • December 26, 2018

    Christmas recap: I didn't have a tree, didn't have enough money to buy my older kids anything for Christmas (I got the two youngest a few things) and I didn't have Christmas dinner. Who would want to spend their time with me? Caleb (18) stayed...
  • December 21, 2018

    I'm getting things ready for Nick (15) to move in. I've been told the judge still has to give the final order and I can still back out. Caleb (18) was furious when I told him. He said "Nick is a bad kid dad and he is going to get us in trouble...
  • December 20, 2018

    Divorce feels worse than death. At least if one of us were dead there would be no hostility. The kids wouldn't have to worry about as much. God I hate this. The court ordered Nick (15) to move in with me because his mother can't handle him. That...
  • December 19, 2018

    I spent a little while yesterday crying so hard I felt it in my soul. I received a call from Nick's (15) social worker saying the judge ordered Nick to live with me, giving me temporary custody. I told Becca (16) and Trinity (14) and they were mad...
  • December 18, 2018

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    This trial. These trials. Sometimes I wonder if there is ever an end. Last night Nick (15) messaged me and said his attorney was going to suggest he live with me. I said okay, we will do whatever we can to make it through this. If all the kids are living...
  • December 14, 2018

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    I've been thinking about reconciliation. There are three paths available- 1) only communication. 2) friends and 3) restored marriage. Of course I want a restored marriage because I believe that's what God desires but I can't even accomplish...
  • December 13, 2018

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    I sit here and type all this stuff about how terrible my life is and to some who see it and read about it maybe it does look terrible but, like Tim, I see other people whose lives are in much worse shape than mine and it gives me a different perspective...
  • December 12, 2018

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    Another tough day. I went to a DivorceCare meeting last night, like I do every Tuesday. Trinity (14) called me and asked where Becca (15) was. She went into Becca's room and she wasn't there. Find My iPhone said she was on the other side of town...
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