Collaborate without boundaries

April 19, 2018- Round 3 Day 2

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I read day 2 and had no idea what I could possibly do. I prayed multiple times about it. Then as I plugged my phone in at work this morning I thought I will just send my wife a text. We have had no contact in three months and that would be totally unexpected. Since The Love Dare is about unconditional love I just needed to convey love, and nothing more. So I sent her a heart emoji ❤️ and I'm sure she is confused by it. I feel like after all this time it sends a simple message of love.

I worked all day to prepare myself mentally to defend my wife if she came up in any conversation. The kids didn't mention her yesterday at all but a lady from church, who has been texting me because she is questioning her salvation, asked me a few questions about my marriage and why in my situation I still have faith. What an opportunity to show how powerful the love of God really is! I told her that my wife is a good person but sometimes bad things happen to good people. I told her I firmly believe with God all things are possible. There is no limitations to what He can do and everything is in His hands. She asked me what I can do to save my marriage and I told her I can't do anything except be faithful to God and leave my problems with Him. I just have to believe that.

I also concentrated on just the day. I didn't think about tomorrow or the day after that. I have to form a habit of living for the day and getting rid of the fear of tomorrow. Satan causes fear. I've thought about that affecting my life and I also see that it is affecting my wife too. In every interaction I have had with her in the last year she consistently thinks about how terrible her life will be in the future with me as her husband. She thinks we can be friends and raise our children together but not as husband and wife. If that's not satan causing fear to swell up inside of her I don't know what is.

"There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love." ~ 1 John 4:18

"Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour." ~ 1 Peter 5:8

"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." ~ James 4:7

"Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil." ~ Ephesians 6:11

"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." ~ Isaiah 41:10

"I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears." ~ Psalm 34:4


  • Be cautious of forming a bond or this woman forming a bond with you.  Bonds with the opposite sex can lead to emotional affairs.  Not saying you would.  But evil can use this bond against you or her.  Maybe do a group text with her.  That way there's a third party.  

    Even if no bond forms but your wife comes back.  Do you want to answer her question Did you talk to any women?  

  • One woman on this site met often with her pastor.  He always had the church female administrator in the room with them.  I'm sure this was to keep everything up front as well as keeping church members or his wife from worrying .

    It's great you are able and willing to offer testimony.

  • As you begin a new round of dares and become comfortable doing them make sure not to relax and do more than a dare a day.

  • This woman is schizophrenic and reaches out to many different people in church. We all talk to her and try to comfort her. I feel obligated to share my knowledge of the Bible with her. I would hate to think my wife would ever see more into it than that. I will be careful though.

  • That's the one thing I don't like about this site, you don't get a natural  flow of a conversation and get all the info or feedback to reply properly, and thus, often have to reply with the worse case scenario.  Such as about this woman that everyone is trying to help out.  

    I would think your wife would certainly understand this situation.  

    But it can be tempting to strike up even a casual conversation with the opposite sex when there is no or little contact with your spouse.  

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