Collaborate without boundaries

R2 Day 4 Love is Thoughtful- Done

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I have been so nervous all morning thinking about calling my own wife. How silly! I resolved to only ask how she was doing and if there was anything I could do for her. Nothing more / nothing less. So I called and she answered. I asked how her day was going and she laughed and said "It's going." She said she was walking in the snow between patient's houses. I asked her how her tooth was doing and she said it still hurts and she hasn't made an appointment to get it fixed yet. Then I asked her how yesterday went. She said she was going to try to make it to church at 7:00 but didn't come home until 9:30 and went straight to our 15 year old daughter's room and we only said a few words to each other. I said it seemed like she was tired or upset. She said she was just tired.

Then she mentioned our 13 year old daughter's therapy appointment tonight at 6:00. She said she could take her so I told her if anything happens between now and then, that if she needed me to, I could take her. I told her to just call me if she needs anything.

My one BIG concern from yesterday though is once she got home and went to our 15 year old daughter's room she called our daughter, who was downstairs with me, and ,according to our daughter, she was saying strange things and acting strange. Then our 14 year old son came downstairs and said "Amber is drunk." He is adopted so he calls us by our names. I asked him why he thought that and he said I can smell it on her and she is talking funny.  I didn't say anything to her about it and I don't even know if I should. I will bring it up to my therapist and see what he thinks. I did go into the room later to check on something for my daughter who asked me to and my wife was sitting on the bed with a hoodie on. I thought it was strange but I couldn't get close enough to tell if she had been drinking. I hope not.

Please pray for me to have the strength to set a shining example for my wife and for her to find a way to deal with her stress or whatever is going on with her.

  • Love believes the best.  I know this sounds like a broken record, but for me, it has held true so many times.

    Maybe she did a shot or two or had a drink to settle, but was not drunk.  Sometimes our spouses will act drunk or buzzed to just get a rise out of us.  

    Maybe she just had a  bit of alcohol just so you would find out and tempt you to go back to drinking.  

    Mine in front of people would often drink but act like she drank so much more, as if she was seeking attention.  And people would accuse her of drinking and when I would check on her, she woujld appear fine.  People would also tell me she is walking away from get togethers with a wine bottle. but, I would see her leave and her hands were empty.  

  • The hoodie could have been part of an act.  Mine dressed different for several years, and is now going back to dressing her old way.  YOur wife is still in there somewhere.  

    I am and I am sure you are too that she considers going to church.  

    prayers as you asked for.

  • "My wife is still in there somewhere."

    I like that. I bet she thought the same thing about me last year when she was trying so hard for me.

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