Collaborate without boundaries

Day 1 in the books

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I may have started this challenge for the wrong reasons, but I already feel a shift even after day 1. My husband is not affectionate and does not share (know?) his feelings and this has been a big source of frustration for me. Today, I asked him for a short text or note of reassurance after a bad dream. His answer was...uninspired but he did answer and because today was about patience and staying positive, I just thanked him for his response and moved on with my day. Normally, I’d spend the day lamenting the situation, but this challenge really did change my POV today. 

  • For right now, let your desires or changes you want  him to make go.  

    Look at this as a journey between you and Christ, not you and your husband.  He will be used as a tool to mold you.  do a dare a day, no more, no less.  do the dares as they are intended to be done.  Do not have expectations of him when  doing the dares.  In fact, things may get worse before it gets better.  If so, do not  worry, it will serve purpose.  do not read ahead  in the book other than the appendix, especially about leading the heart.  

    Welcome to the community.

  • We all start for the wrong reasons LOL.... That is the best part, when you realize what this truly is and does, you come to realize just how much God KNOWS WHO YOU ARE.... You can see now you have purpose not only in your marriage and this life, BUT IN CHRIST!

  • I started this to impress my wife enough to come back to me. The further I got in and the more I read, along with daily Bible reading, I began to think "Man, I'm missing Christ. I'm not missing my wife." That was my problem, our problem, all along. My wife has since moved further away from me. Her divorce will be final soon but I am, in one way, better than ever I ever was. I miss my wife terribly, and I miss my family unit, but it's just something I have to live with. I did the dares all wrong because I wouldn't just step back and let God do His work. I kept trying to add to them and it backfired every time. Like these other guys say... do the dares exactly as they say and do no do any extra. YOU grow in Christ and let Christ work on your husband.

  • Welcom! Not much to add to these guys comments, but Learn to "Be Still" this is a very important part of the dares, it will be dificult, the Tool thing is real and will streach you and make you ether 1. turn to god; or 2. Quit. Don't quit, God has a plan for you, with or without your husband but hopefully with, that will make an impact in the lives of those around you, and build His testemony.

    Praying for you.

  • Even if you start them for the right reason you find out just how selfish you are, and how much you need to learn, that is why this community is so great. We support each other in prayer, with comments and advice. Don't be shy, ask questions, vent, but remember that God wants to hear those things more than we do, and though we can give advice, he is the source of the support you need.

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