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  • R2D5 Couldn't complete the dare :(

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    Confession time. I couldn't bring myself to do the dare yesterday. I asked DH back before I started the dares what I did that irritated him. He told me a couple of things, and I have worked hard to stop doing them. I then asked him again during Round...
  • R2D1 The glass really is half full!!

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    Praises! Another great day! I don't know if it is a change in my DH or a change in me, or perhaps a change in both of us, but my DH seemed more like himself today. I got up and took the dog to the park for a long walk. The weather was wonderful, and...
  • R2D6 Thank God for forgiveness

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    For today's dare, I asked God to reveal to me areas in which I need to add margin to my life. I asked this in round 1 too, but I really haven't been able to see areas in which I need to add margin. But unfortunately, the list of selfish motivations...
  • R2D2 He said thank-you!

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    For today's dare, I chose laundry! My DH takes care of his own laundry, and I take care of mine. He put some clothes in to wash before leaving for work this morning, and made the comment that he didn't have anything clean to put on when he got...
  • R3D5 Humbled

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    A long post tonight........Apparently it has really irritated my DH that I have walked around for the last couple of months like I am "walking on eggshells". I think he is referring to my apprehension to do or say things at times. Also for a...
  • R2D3 Love is not selfish.

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    I was at a complete loss today as to what to get my husband today as part of my dare. Last round, I purchased him a new pair of work pants. The next day, he told me that he already knew how nice I was, and to not get him anything anymore because it made...
  • R2D9 Anxious about the "greeting" tomorrow

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    As I read over tomorrow's dare tonight (I read them at bedtime for the next day), I feel confused and anxious. Every night as I head to bed, I tell my DH goodnight. And every night, he just silently lifts his hand and kinda waves it at me, never even...
  • Day 31 My Number 1 Priority

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    Today was another difficult dare for me. As DH becomes more distant, it is increasingly difficult to do the dares. Neither one of us has issues with not leaving our parents. His are both deceased, as is my mom. I believe he has had issues leaving his...
  • R2D11 I tried.....

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    My attempt at the dare today was pretty lame! The dare for day 11 differs between what is online and what is in the book, even though they are both about cherishing our spouses. The book suggests giving your spouse a touch that says you cherish them,...
  • R2D24 Lust isn't what I thought

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    I had never really considered myself to be a "lustful" person until Dare 24 of Round 1 of the Love Dare. I was especially convicted by the suggestion in the book that when we say "If only I had __________", we are exhibiting a lustful...
  • R2D10 Buying cookies for God

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    I had a hard time figuring out what to do for today's dare. I help with his laundry from time to time so I didn't feel that was anything very special. I really had a hard time coming up with something out of the ordinary. I finally decided to...
  • Day 32 Shock and Awe

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    Well, I prayed that God would give me the courage to bring up the idea of sex tonight. It's been awhile, so I was very fearful of asking, given all the rejection lately. Ever since my DH told me that he wants a divorce, he has become so attached to...
  • R2D26 Responsibility

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    Responsibility. There's a question in the book that reads " Can your spouse say that you have wronged or wounded them in any way and never made it right?" The answer to this question at this point in Round 1 was an absolute "yes"...
  • R2D25 Forgiveness and a box of candy

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    I really don't think that there is anything that my DH has done that I haven't forgiven. Other than jump up out of the blue and announce he wants a divorce, I really can't even think of much that I have ever really needed to forgive him for...
  • R3D1 Tolerating without complaint

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    I looked up the definition of patience today. It is "the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset". I have really developed more of this characteristic over the last couple of months. I have...
  • Day 35 Whoever listens to counsel is wise....

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    Day 35 - seeking counsel. I have been seeing a counselor on a weekly basis since DH told me he wants a divorce 2 1/2 months ago. She is a Christian counselor and has helped me greatly along this journey. I wish that DH was open to seeking Christian advice...
  • R2D9 Dare completed in a "sweet" way!

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    Well, I decided that when I got home from work this evening, I would greet DH with a term that I haven't used in a couple of months - Sweetie. He has seemed anything but sweet the past couple of months. So when I got home, I said "Hi, Sweetie...
  • R2D34 More and more

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    Today's dare was to find a specific, recent example when my spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way, and commend him for it. Well, I didn't do too good with this one. I couldn't think of a recent example. Is it that there...
  • R2D23 Love protects

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    Dare 23 - love always protects. It is interesting that this dare fell today in light of my Bible study last night. Our study leader said that there are two sides to God's love, nurture and protection. The nurturing side includes His compassion, mercy...
  • R2D22. Why can't I do it??

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    For two days I have tried to say "I love you" to DH, and I can't get the words to come out of my mouth. I was able to say it to him during round 1, and I can write it to him, but I haven't been able to say it to him. I didn't want...
  • Day 26, Several Days Late

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    I spent the last couple of days across the country visiting my son and daughter, so I waited 3 days to do this dare because I wanted to do it in person. When my DH and I first got married, I came into this marriage with a very arrogant and prideful attitude...
  • R2D14 Grateful, Hopeful, and Fearful

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    Well, today has been a day of ups and downs. I have to start with last night. As I was walking through the den headed for the back room, my husband said that he was fixing to watch a movie on Netflix and asked if I wanted to watch it too. So I put my...
  • R2D33 Working together but worlds apart

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    "The effectiveness of your marriage is dependent upon both of you working together." I always thought we worked together pretty well until this journey. Looking back, my own pride got in the way of us working together. And now it's hard...
  • R3D6 Love is not irritable

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    I chose during the first round to react to tough circumstances in my marriage in loving ways rather than with irritation. From that point forward until today, I can see alot of progress. I hope that my DH can see that progress. I honestly cannot think...
  • R2D27 Totally Unrealistic!

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    Unrealistic expectations. I brought a ton of them into our marriage 3 1/2 years ago. I spent time today really reflecting upon the unrealistic expectations that I had for DH. I expected that he would be neat, but he has never been neat! I expected that...
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