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  • R3D2 Kindness in word and deed

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    Kindness. I like the way that the book breaks it down into gentleness, helpfulness, willingness, and initiative. I have always thought of my DH as a very kind man. I don't know if he would describe me that way or not. I would like to think so; I would...
  • R3D1 Tolerating without complaint

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    I looked up the definition of patience today. It is "the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset". I have really developed more of this characteristic over the last couple of months. I have...
  • R2D40 What a "ride"

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    I hit the ground running this morning, and we just got home from my DH's company picnic at the amusement park. I met a lot of people that DH works with, and he introduced me to every single one of them that we ran into. I can't really ride the...
  • R2D39 Time is a precious gift

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    I did not leave DH a note declaring my ever-faithful love to him today. We had a long conversation at dinner tonight, and I figured a note on top of that this evening might have been too much. I have a card already written out - perhaps I will leave it...
  • Would like thoughts from the community!

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    My husband‘s company picnic is tomorrow afternoon at a local amusement park. In the past, he and I have always gone together. The company pays for anyone living in your household. Then, they allow you to purchase extra tickets at a discount for...
  • R2D38 One day at a time

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    I have no idea what my DH desires right now other than a divorce (and I am not sure he even wants that). How can I possibly know what he wants if he doesn’t know himself. I pray that God will open my eyes to see and understand my spouse’s...
  • R2D37 An epic failure???

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    Well, Dare 37 of round 2, and I still can't do it. I can't ask him if we can pray together. I cannot seem to overcome my hesitation. I pray FOR him everyday. I would love to pray WITH him, but that isn't going to happen right now. If I asked...
  • The value of wise counsel...

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    I have a dear friend at work that is a couple of years older than me, and is probably the most mature Christian woman that I have ever met. Her husband suffers from long-term severe depression, and so she definitely can relate to the struggle that I face...
  • R2D36 Clinging to God's word

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    My DH is not at a point that we can read the Bible together, but I am in the word every morning before work during the workweek, and on Sundays before church. I will have to admit, on Saturdays, every once in a while I will sleep in and I may or may not...
  • Oh boy, now what???

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    Well I just thought things were getting better. DH told me on the way to bed tonight that he wants a divorce and that his mind is made up. He says he told his daughter 2 weeks ago. We chatted for a while, very calmly. He says that he gave it more time...
  • R2D35 At a loss

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    Today's dare is all about seeking wise, Godly counsel, and thanks to my Heavenly Father for providing me just that. I am blessed to be able to afford to see a counselor, and have a dear friend whose husband also suffers from depression, and she has...
  • R2D34 More and more

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    Today's dare was to find a specific, recent example when my spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way, and commend him for it. Well, I didn't do too good with this one. I couldn't think of a recent example. Is it that there...
  • R2D33 Working together but worlds apart

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    "The effectiveness of your marriage is dependent upon both of you working together." I always thought we worked together pretty well until this journey. Looking back, my own pride got in the way of us working together. And now it's hard...
  • R2D32 Scared

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    Dare 32 - I initiated sex and he went along with it, but the same exact thing happened that happened a month ago - he started bleeding fresh blood - a lot of it. It's not happening all the time, just twice now. He has a checkup with the doctor scheduled...
  • R2D31 Leaving Singleness

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    Leaving and cleaving. Since both DH and myself have grown children of our own, and only one of our parents is still living, leaving our parents has not been an issue in our marriage. But leaving our singleness has been. Both of us were divorced and single...
  • R2D30 Cake mixes and crickets!

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    This morning before I left for work, I ran by the store to pick up a couple of cake mixes (see last night's journal for the reason why and the significance of the cake mixes). I left them on the kitchen table along with DH's old hand mixer, and...
  • On a side note....

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    On DH's way to bed he took the dog with him rather than put her outside for the evening. I went back there to get her. She didn’t want to leave and peed all over the comforter and sheets. I had to strip the bed, put the sheets into wash, try...
  • R2D29 Crickets

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    Today was a difficult dare because I never tell DH that I love him anymore. That is so sad to me. Up until 3 months ago, I told him all the time. So, I told DH that I love him and that I hoped he was having a wonderful day. Nothing like hearing crickets...
  • R2D28 I really wish I knew what he needs

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    Love meets needs through sacrifice. I had a hard time with this in Round 1. I had prayed that God would open my eyes to a need that I could meet, and finally at bedtime, I was able to share a piece of fruit with DH. Well, this morning, I prayed the same...
  • R2D27 Totally Unrealistic!

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    Unrealistic expectations. I brought a ton of them into our marriage 3 1/2 years ago. I spent time today really reflecting upon the unrealistic expectations that I had for DH. I expected that he would be neat, but he has never been neat! I expected that...
  • R2D26 Responsibility

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    Responsibility. There's a question in the book that reads " Can your spouse say that you have wronged or wounded them in any way and never made it right?" The answer to this question at this point in Round 1 was an absolute "yes"...
  • R2D25 Forgiveness and a box of candy

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    I really don't think that there is anything that my DH has done that I haven't forgiven. Other than jump up out of the blue and announce he wants a divorce, I really can't even think of much that I have ever really needed to forgive him for...
  • R2D24 Lust isn't what I thought

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    I had never really considered myself to be a "lustful" person until Dare 24 of Round 1 of the Love Dare. I was especially convicted by the suggestion in the book that when we say "If only I had __________", we are exhibiting a lustful...
  • R2D23 Love protects

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    Dare 23 - love always protects. It is interesting that this dare fell today in light of my Bible study last night. Our study leader said that there are two sides to God's love, nurture and protection. The nurturing side includes His compassion, mercy...
  • R2D22. Why can't I do it??

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    For two days I have tried to say "I love you" to DH, and I can't get the words to come out of my mouth. I was able to say it to him during round 1, and I can write it to him, but I haven't been able to say it to him. I didn't want...
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