Collaborate without boundaries

Confusing

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I spent the day with my sister and family at my nephew's college graduation.  On the 6 hour ride down here yesterday, DH sent me a text that he had taken our divorce paperwork to his employer and that if I needed anything else to let him know.  I sent him a text back that said "thank you".  Today, I posted a picture of my nephew at his graduation ceremony on Facebook.  DH liked it.  I am having a hard time with that.  I don't know how I feel about it or how I should feel about it.  He divorced me.  Why is he liking some of my Facebook posts? I think he wants to be my friend.  Just friends.  I want to be his wife but he doesn't want to be my husband. I don't think I can be his friend right now, if ever. It's confusing. It hurts.

  • He is justifying his decision by making every thing look normal, but he knows what he did was wrong, he is fighting the Holy Spirit and he can't win. Keep trusting in God, and stay in the dares. I'm still praying for DH's return both to God and You.

  • He is justifying his decision by making every thing look normal, but he knows what he did was wrong, he is fighting the Holy Spirit and he can't win. Keep trusting in God, and stay in the dares. I'm still praying for DH's return both to God and You.

  • Keep it simple.  Love believes the best and he's just trying to show kindness.

    If reconciliation is to happen, then will a friendship help or hurt the chances of a reconcilliation?

    Be still in all this.  It is all so new yet.  Let it settle down before figuring everything out.  shove it out of your mind by replacing all these thoughts with prayer.

    and seek wisdom in how to handle his kindness.  Maybe God will say to return his kindness.  Maybe God will say accept his kindness.  Maybe God will say Be still when he offers kindness while He does the work.  

    The confusion is not fun, but that is also where growth in Christ occurs when you lean on Him and not your own understanding.

  • I am the worst person to offer any advice on this. My wife keeps being nice in some ways but tries to get me put in jail for contempt in others. She bought me stuff for my birthday and yesterday my son told me she said she is going to buy me a firestick. I don't need a firestick. I need a wife. What our spouses don't realize is that they trampled us throughout this process just by initiating it. How can we be friends? Especially after breaking so many vows and commandments. There is no love in divorce so why show love now? It has to be conviction. But who knows. This could lead to reconciliation. It's hard to predict anything about anyone who went this far to do what they did in the first place. I know the Bible says love. No matter what. He doesn't deserve your love after what he did but its up to you to give it to him anyway.

    P.S. I can't be my wife's friend after this either. There were too many lies and deceptions for her to just walk away and say she wants to be friends. It would take a massive amount of confession and repentance on her part in order for me to ever trust her again.

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