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God is at work

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It was weird to spend a day without communication with DH.  I guess it’s a stupid thing to wonder, but I wonder if he misses me as much as I miss him, if he misses me at all.  I had a long talk with God this morning shortly after I woke up. I told God that I wasn’t sure at this point what to pray for. Do I continue to pray for reconciliation at this point? I’m probably only a few weeks from the divorce being final. Do I pray for God to help me move on?  I decided that as long as we are husband and wife, I will continue to pray for reconciliation. I felt like God was telling me today in my quiet time with Him that this journey needed to occur in order for God to have wide open access to DH’s heart.  What DH chooses to do with God’s conviction is his choice, but it seemed as if God said to my spirit today that it’s OK that I’m out of the way, that he’s working on DH now.  God is at work - I can trust that fact is true.  I’ve had a strange sense of peace today.  I’ve prayed all day for DH’s relationship with God.  In the end, it’s far more important than his relationship with me. But I do miss him.  

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. On Valentine’s Day last year, I surprised DH. When he got home from work, I had the table decorated with a tablecloth that I had made from red fabric with little tiny silver hearts on it. The table was set with my fine china. I had actually taken the day off from work and cooked a very special dinner. He was so impressed, and took pictures of everything and sent to his friends!  Things were good between us.  I really have no idea when or where or why things went so wrong. Well, I do know the why, in a sense.  God was not at the center of our relationship.  My prayer is that DH and God will become very close.  I am in a dilemma over whether to contact him tomorrow or not. On the one hand, we are still husband and wife, and I’d like to send him a valentine text. On the other hand, I feel like God is telling me that DH is in his hands now, and to let Him handle it. I’m just going to have to pray about it.  One of the ladies in my Sunday school class who is a widow sent out a text this evening asking several of us girls if we would like to join her for a GAL-entine dinner tomorrow night.  Of course, I’d rather be spending it with DH, but I am so thankful for my Christian sisters who have loved me, supported me, and will continue to do so.
  • This is a new season in your life, if or when the d is finalized.  I think it  will be a good time to really fall back to Being still and knowing He is God.  You do have the bible and church and prayer as guidance, but there isn't that I know of a book like the LD for this season of your life.

    He is still your  husband, contact him for  St. Valentine's day.  But of course, pray about it as you said, and go with how you are led.  

  • This is a new season in your life, if or when the d is finalized.  I think it  will be a good time to really fall back to Being still and knowing He is God.  You do have the bible and church and prayer as guidance, but there isn't that I know of a book like the LD for this season of your life.

    He is still your  husband, contact him for  St. Valentine's day.  But of course, pray about it as you said, and go with how you are led.  

  • This is only my opinion. No science to this at all. But I think those who are initiating a d have something in their lives that fill their hearts that cause them NOT to miss us. I also don't think this is something that can last forever and eventually they will admit to themselves that they do miss us. Hence, all the people I have talked to, who years later, regret their decision.

    I even got my wife a small Valentine's Day gift. Chocolate and a card. She's my wife and I owe it to her. continue to treat him like your spouse. I would say even after the d if it in fact happens because what God has put together let not man separate. As hard as that is to think about I believe its something that must be done.

    Prayers for you. Stay positive.

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