Collaborate without boundaries

R4D32 Love is a choice.

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Today’s dare was exceedingly difficult for me.  Earlier this evening, I walked down the hall to hear my DH and his daughter on the phone (speakerphone) discussing what type of dog he should get.  Oh how painful that was to hear.  I felt like it was insensitive for them to discuss that while I was home and could hear it.  I was in the middle of taking down the Christmas tree, and had walked down the hall to get something.  When I came back, his daughter was telling him he might like a labradoodle.  Then she told him that since he had become so attached to my dachshund, she thought maybe he should get one of those.  I just kept taking stuff off the tree.  I was in the living room and DH was on the other side of the wall in the den.  I was so upset.  The last thing I wanted to do was ask him to be intimate.  I wanted to start packing my bags.  It was a battle between my flesh and obedience.  I thought about Jesus and how he loved his betrayers.  Then I said to myself that I am not Jesus and surely can’t be expected to be intimate with my DH under such circumstances.  I knew I would not be able to ask him in person, so while I was taking decorations off the tree, I begrudgingly sent him a text and asked.  He said yes.  As I reflect back now, I know I did the right thing.  I believe DH probably knows I overheard that conversation.  If he doesn’t, he surely wonders if I did.  By doing what I did, I showed love in the face of rejection.  But I will be the first to admit, it was only by God’s strength.  

  • Ugh, I wish texting hadn't been invented.  

    These hard dares, oh how tough they can be to do.  But, these are the very ones that we grow the most doing.  You did it for God, not for you, not for your husband, not for the marriage.  and this is what  opens the door more fully for God to work in him.  

    Let the conversation about the dog go.  It could be just something fun for them to talk about.  People get excited over a new puppy or dog.  

    Keep falling on God's strength.  that's what counts.  

  • You can't trust your heart and you can't trust your ears. Lead your heart and don't try to analyze everything you hear. You know Jesus was supremely rejected and still did what He was sent to do. Our mission is to stay by our spouses sides unconditionally. Whatever they do show them love in return. I know this is difficult as I struggle with it every single day but I keep my mind focused on what God wants, not what I want.

    If you ask him in person what's the worst that could happen?

    "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”

    Joshua 1:9

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