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R4D30 The real source of division

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Division.  God revealed it clearly to me this morning as I was in my devotional time.  One of the reference passages in my devotional was 1 John 4:8 - "The one who does not love does not know God, because God is love."  The Message says it this way - "The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love."  The division between DH and I is a spiritual one.  DH says that he is a Christian, that he believes that Jesus died for his sins, but from what I can observe, that is the extent of his faith.  He doesn't go to church, I have never seen him open his Bible at home, never heard him pray or speak about God.  He is a very private person, and would probably claim that his faith is private.  I think that he has very basic head knowledge about God, but no heart knowledge.  We met many years ago in a Sunday School class, but he eventually quit going to church.  I thought when we got married that we were equally yoked "enough", but in reality we are worlds apart.  His refusal to love me stems from his lack of understanding and relationship with God.  This is our source of division.  Only God can bridge that gap - and my role is to be a light in the midst of DH's darkness, reflecting the love that the Father has lavished upon me.  So I am praying tonight for DH's relationship with God.  In the grand scheme of things, it's the only relationship that matters.

  • I bet what was revealed to you about your spouse is true in all our spouses.   But it is pretty cool when you or any of us get the lesson we are handed so well and it comes into a new perspective for us.

    As you pray for him in an unselfish way to grow in God, take a few minutes, and this is more me thinking I need to do this than it is for you, so let me start over with this thought.

    I need to look at how Jesus loves, and how far I am from that.  And seek in Him how to truly love.  

  • Thanks a lot for pointing out more defects in me!  LOL.  in seriousness, i will try to remember to focus on this in the next prayer time.  

  • Just noticed, you are done with round 4.  Not many people make do this many rounds. IF you choose to or not to do another round, I have no idea what to say in that regard.  But I am sure you will do your best to continue to live in the dares.  But, if you choose not to do another round, and again this is more for me than you, choose to pick up the LD book in several months and read a dare a day for a refresher.  I have said I need to do this for several years now, but just let the flesh or my poor memory keep me from doing so.  

  • I feel the same way about my wife. She sits in church, listens to them say marriage is sacred, then comes home and continues on the same path she's been on as if she doesn't even care what God says. It's mind boggling to me. And if I so much as mention anything about it she gets angry and says I have no idea about her faith. But, the truth is, if she did love God she would be in counseling working on her marriage, not meeting with her lawyer, plotting against me. It seems simple but what is going on in their heads is beyond me. The way I see it is that they are on the broad road headed for hell. That's a terrible thought but I can't see it any other way.

    This is something I have thought about for a long time now. I'm glad you brought this up so I see I'm not the only one thinking this way. Prayers.

    "If you love Me, keep my commandments."

    John 14:15

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