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R4D26 Thankful for forgiveness

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Love is responsible for admitting wrongdoing and asking for forgiveness.  I have prayed through my areas of wrongdoing - pride, selfishness, controlling behavior, disrespect, and unrealistic expectations.  God has revealed each one of these during this journey and convicted me.  Each one of these has caused DH hurt and disappointment.  I have asked God to forgive me, as well as asked DH to forgive me.  I did not ask DH to forgive me for these things again.  He has told me that he has forgiven me, so I don't feel like I need to ask him again.  I am so thankful for God's forgiveness.  I don't deserve it but God has blessed me with it.  I have asked God tonight to help me grow more like Him in each of these areas - to be humble, selfless, submissive, respectful, and forgiving.  

DH is off work from now until January 3.  So we stayed up late this evening watching another movie.  We got a gift card to a local theatre from his brother for Christmas.  It's to a really nice, new theatre where all the seats are full size recliners.  We have never been there - we don't pay for regular movies (we wait until we can get it for a few dollars on demand or for free!), so we would probably never spend the money to go to the more expensive theatre.  If I can get my courage up, I am going to suggest that we go see a movie before he goes back to work.  
  • It can be scary asking for a date with your spouse in this trial.  But he is your husband and asking is good.  Especially when you have been through so many rounds and it's at the point of asking is not like it is for so many of us, in it being doing more than a dare a day.  Or getting in his space.

    So, ask in the best you, you can be.  and thank God in whatever response your husband  gives you.  If' it's yes, terrific.  If it's no, terrific.  Maybe God just knew going out in public isn't what's needed right now, and sitting on the couch with him or just being under roof with him is what's needed.  

  • I think Eddie has touched on how finances can play a role in marriage, if I remember right.  And both of you seem to have the same monetary discipline.  This is good.  It's another way of being united.  It is just one more way you are linked to him.  And he feels this link.  

    Since this is your fourth round, it is fine in my thoughts, that you did not ask of forgiveness from him.  but, if you find yourself making a bonehead move in the future, remember to apologize and say sorry.  Because we all do or say silly things that really don't reflect our true meaning.  

  • We learn so much throughout this process. Pride is one of the worst things in humans. It's like an infection. I have worked so hard to eliminate it from my life and I know my wife is severely infected with it. I think pride creates all those other things. To learn to let go of pride is to become so close to Jesus. I have gotten to the point where I am so humble that everyone, including my own children, say I am letting my wife trample me. They just don't understand that this is exactly what Jesus teaches. There is so much persecution from all directions.

    I asked my preacher what to do when I was served the d papers. He said don't ask for more than you deserve. So I told my lawyer I don't deserve anything. Of course my lawyer argued that I do. He, like the rest of the secular world, just doesn't get it. Possessions mean nothing. I would rather have my family. I DO have God's forgiveness, which like you said, I don't deserve. The only thing we need is God. We want our spouse but we don't need them. It's sooooo sad that our spouses don't feel that way also. I'm so happy that you asked God to help you with the areas you did. I beg God to destroy those things in me. I get very passionate in my prayers about that. I really want God to destroy everything about the old me and create something beautiful that He can use how He likes.

    Being on the same page financially is a huge plus. My wife and I never have been and probably never will be. I can compromise and cut down on my eating out, and I have, but she cannot compromise at all and allow ANY spending on eating out. Until she does finances will always be an obstacle between us.

    I have asked my wife on dates a couple times in the last week or so. She makes an excuse every time but I don't feel scared or bad asking because I know it is the right thing to do and that God has my back. One of our preachers told me that she and I need to go on dates and have alone time. So I ask periodically even though she says no I feel good because I did the right thing and asked.

    "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me."

    2 Corinthians 12:9

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